My husband was very accomplished in high school. He played football, wrestled, and graduated an honor's student. From high school he went into the military. He was in the navy for about a year and a half when he was diagnosed with Schitzophrenia. He was then discharged from the navy. Life for him doesn't have a dead end, or atleast in my eyes. He can still get his Montgomery G.I. Bill to fund for higher education and did this past semester. However, he was very discouraged because he got a D in one of his three classes he took (he was only a part time student, without a job, because he was afraid of over loading himself). Now he wants to quit school. He doesn't think he is going to make it through college. Because of that D, he started talking about how he is a failure, worthless, and even sometime how he should die.
How do I help him cope with anxiety, abnormal thought of worthlessness and being a failure to keep him from self harming?
I am sorry for the situation your boyfriend is facing. Whatever the diagnosis was earlier, it is obvious that he is depressed at this stage. This may be called post-psychotic depression.
I was wondering if he has been prescribed medicines and is taking them. He may have to add anti-depressants to his treatment regime. Depression is known to complicate a number of mental health problems. Schizophrenia is one such condition.
If he is open to therapy, you should try to seek help of a psychotherapist for him. He needs to replace his core "evaluative" beliefs. You can help him see the situation from a different point of view. Scoring a D does not mean he is not adequate. You could help him understand this.
His self-esteem is very low probably. You could tell him that he should learn to love himself for what he is .... and not what he does or doesn't achieve. Once he realizes that scoring a D is not "that terrible" or awful, he will start thinking more rationally.
I hope this helps.
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