I'll try not to make this too complicated and I hope I did this correctly if not please forgive it's my first time posting.

My so called ex has schizoid affective disorder (so i'm told by his family and as you know it's a very specific name thta not just a common person would use and I trust them).

My somewhat of an ex and I are still friends. He tells me he loves me etc. However, he lives with a woman that I have never met and he does not talk about that he is in love with her. It hurts me that somehow she was able to gain his trust and he coudl live with her. I'm still very much in love with him. When we are together he is like a child wanting constantly to be near me and touch me and make sure I'm happy and okay. It's very sweet and I almost think of it as kind of sad. He is so insecure though he is a beloved performer. I saw him yesterdday and he told me he was living with her but that it was whatever and she put up with his "insanity". I do not wnat him to know that his family betrayed his trust in me but I also want him to know this will always be where he can feel safe and unjudged. I want him to know somehow that I know. When I left yesterday everyone was still hanging out I said that I would go but come back he got very passive aggressive and said well then go and stay gone. I don't want you to leave but since are just go ahead. It wasn't in a mean way it just very matter of fact and flat. He had been drinking and planning on drinking more. After hanging on me all day he barely hugged me good-bye. I'm trying to find out how to gain more of his trust. I want him here with me and though I know it can be difficult I would liek the chance to see if I could help him. I don't want to "fix" him. I just want him to know this can not be the reason for us not being together. I'm lost and don't knwo how to reach him or what any of this means. He was very unkempt yesterday though he was performing no shower, dirty clothes etc. I went to his car after and he was suddenly putting on cologne and putting on a shirt I noticed a bunch of clothes in his car. He wanted me to stya and drink with him but I had to go. I wasn't sure what to think of any of this.

Can anyone advise?