HEre is the scenario -
Married for past 3 yrs. She is 26 i am 29. She is also v attractive and always has men fancy her but she is not big headed and is oblivious to the fact but i am sure she realises more than she lets on.
When we got together, she had told me about her past ex's and about one guy called Kurt. He is my age and they went out of about 3 mths only on about 2/3 dates. He then seemed less interested and it fizzled out.
Over past year or so, they stayed in touch as mates via Facebook and he has dropped her a few emails and messages. They nearly always have a flirty under tone or innuendo and he knows she is now married.
He has made "jokes" about if she ever gets bored of being married or wants a break.... He also said that he always seems to upset the married girls husbands (so say said tongue in cheek).
He is attractive and local and he is single and is out with his mates on the pull a lot so i see on his facebook pages.
So - the situation is that he messaged her in chat on Facebook last night and she told him she was out on work night out with big group this friday and if he was about they should catch up for a drink as he was out that night as well. They exchanged numbers and are going to meet with there respective groups.
She half heartedly asked if i minded and i was honest and said i was not keen or liking the idea and told her these reasons, but said she knows i would never say she cant do something or ban her and so she should do what she wants but thats how i felt.
She says she feels me being like that pushes her away, that i should not feel this way about it and its unfair. She says it is no different from me meeting someone i have been out with in the past alone (i would not do this for the record nor are any of my exes flirts or joke about hooking up etc). She said i made her feel trapped and i said it was fair and natural that i felt as i did given the person and his exploits.
I have no issue now or in the past with her when she met other ex's or men who are friends or work colleagues. But she refers to my alleged over possiveness about her work situation. I am not keen on her work lot as she works as non police staff in a police HQ where all men and she comes home laughing and joking about how they all compliment her on her boobs as a joke and make lots of sex jpkes and remarks and she told me how so so many of them are having affairs in the office and cheating on their partners. So what or how should i feel about her with them daily and on her late shifts and when she goes on works night out.
She is v attractive, gets lots of men drooling and chatting her up but has never given me reason to not trust her or feel that she likes other men more (in fact the opposite) as she is always telling me she loves me and adores me and how great i am, yet these situations still make me uncomfortable and i feel i am normal and fair but she says not -
What do we all think?
