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Q: scared possibly infected with HIV
asked by: CaptainJack on September 26th, 2008
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The very first thing I am going to say is that I have full blown OCD and this is really killing me right now. I hooked up with a girl about 2 weeks ago who I met on an online dating site. We were both kind of drunk coming back from a bar, and she gave me oral sex that night. We didn't plan on having sex so soon, so I didn't have a condom on, but at one point we were almost ready to do it (without a condom) , but we couldn't because she was not wet enough to have sex. I was only in her for maybe a few seconds. Here is the thing though, the next day she tells me she has something called HPV. I guess its some kind of STI that is contagious through skin to skin contact. Supposedly she has a strain that causes cervical cancer in women, so most likely I got that. But it won't harm me directly, but may harm other women I come in contact with. THe good news is that the human immune system kills the virus in 90% of people within 6 months - two years. It appears it a highly epedemic problem with sexually active people and 70% of people get some strain of HPV some point in there life.

Thing that really has me scared though is what if she had something else? I've been really worried and can't stop thinking about random things like if she had HIV (Aids) and didn't know it, or didn't say anything. I keep getting like mini panic attacks. I went to see my doctor about the HPV thing and she assured me its not that serious, I asked if I should get blood work for anything, but she didn't think so. I am having my physical in a few weeks so I will definately have blood work done then, but the idea that I don't know my sexual health right now is really killing me. Its stupid of me too, cause I always see myself as a responsible person, and this is a rare time I slipped up. Also I'm still a virgin and for one of my few sexual experiences, to come across someone that had something wrong is really messing up my mind. Doesn't help either that I have a little cold right now, and supposedly people who catch HIV have flu like symptoms after about 4 weeks. Although the symptoms described seem much more severe than anything i have right now. Its just a really scary time for me.
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CaptainJack
replied on September 26th, 2008
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I talked to the girl about the HPV and stuff, and she said she must have got it from the last guy she was hooking up with. She only had sex with him six times, and she "said" she used condoms every time and didn't understand how she got HPV. (its skin to skin, not fluid based.) She also said she only had sex with three guys as I guess thats good to know in my situation. But I mean she first found out about the HPV sometime in June, when she had a Pap exam and it came out that she had some abnormal cells in there around her cervix. I mean I assume the Pap test was part of some physical and hopefully they took blood work. I hope she or they would have known if there was anything else sexually wrong with her. She had another biopsy in august and they said she had a low risk abnormalty and she just needs to be checked every six months.

Obviosly this whole thing started a fight, and she said it was very personal and didn't want to talk about anymore, and didn't want to leave off on bad terms. So asking her anything else is out of the question. Thing that really bugged me though, was that she had 3 weeks to tell me what was wrong when we were dating. In fact at one point she said she needed to tell me something about her, but when I asked what it was, she didn't want to tell me cause she thought I wouldn't see her anymore. I asked her if it was something about her sexual health and she said no, "she was healthy". So i said well then its your business and you don't have to tell me. I figured maybe it was something mental or emotional based. Thats kind of why, in my drunken state I was clueless about using a condom.
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homerx
replied on September 26th, 2008
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Unsafe sex ..sex with out rubbers is the leading way HIV/AIDS is spread..and being drunk or doing drugs and having unprotected sex is just a really bad idea.Get tested for EVERYTHING...all STDs...and dont be so reckless with your life.You may dodge a bullet this time but it will catch up to you.I aint preaching at you,just telling it like it is.
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CaptainJack
replied on September 27th, 2008
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Thank you for the reply. Just to be sure, I think I am going to go get tested just to be safe. I'll keep in touch on these forums if anything comes up.
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homerx
replied on September 29th, 2008
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Thanks! Good luck.
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