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Q: Scared feeling

asked by: chinggy on July 1st, 2009

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I'm really scared. I've been feeling scared and weird for a few weeks and I'm scared cause I'm afraid I'm suffering from some mental illness. I went to research on the net about what I'm suffering from and I think, could it be anxiety?

I feel really weird, mostly during nights. Firstly, I am really worried for my loved ones, my family. I am afraid that I might lose soon so I would try my best to behave as a good daughter and not upset them. And I also feel sad when I see them cause I am scared I will lose them.

I would also get those 'weird' feeling, it's very vague cause I dunno how to describe those feeling. I told my parents about how I'm feeling but I just can't describe. I can feel weird everywhere and everytime. I told my parents about it but I don't really know how to tell them the whole truth..

One example, I often think to myself and scaring myself with scary thoughts. I will think of random things, like one day I was shopping with my parents. Then I saw a mirror and I thought to myself: Heh I don't want to look into the mirror, I don't want!!!!!!!! But in the end I just stared into the mirror and I felt really scared. Then I will think: What exactly was I thinking just now, am I crazy, why did I think of that, why was I thinking of that kinda thing omg!

Just like the above scenario, it happened quite a lot of times already. It often happen like: I would think of some crazy and scary things in my head, then after that think: Why did I think of that, AM I CRAZY? And I would get really afraid and I would get stomachache and feel "weird".

Then I would also think I'm suffering from some diseases, scary. Like when I have stuttering speech, I would think I have some diseases. When I have sore throat, I thought I have H1N1.

I often try to calm myself down by taking deep breaths and try to do things to occupy myself and make myself busy. Sometimes it helps but sometimes it doesn't.

And I'll try not to think about me having these weird thoughts but I just can't help it. Once I start thinking, my heart will beat very fast and I feel "weird". The weird thing is that when I don't feel weird, I will provoke my thinking until I feel weird. Then I will get really scared and think I'm crazy and act a bit weird as well..

Is there any self help for this? And what exactly am I suffering from, or am I simply thinking too much? I thought these feelings wil go away, but it didn't so I am really afraid. I don't want to take medications cause I'm afraid I will rely on them and self help is the best for me I guess.

Thanks and please help.

Replies(4)

kdlee

replied on July 1st, 2009

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Honey you need to talk with your parents and describe evrything..You also need to talk with a mental health expert..There is no shame or harm in getting help..

Writergurl

replied on August 7th, 2009

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It's normal not to be able to control your thoughts sometimes as long as you can control your actions. Yes, speak with your parents and get some counseling. I agree with kdlee - you don't have to feel ashamed to get help. Self help is good, but you need outside help too so you can get to the cause of what is causing this. Perhaps you could keep a journal and use self-talk to calm yourself and remind yourself you can't always control what you think, but you can control your actions.

Zanthor

replied on September 18th, 2009

New User

Relax :)

I experienced similar things. I found, for me, its when I was afraid of something, and tried to stop myself thinking of that thing. My mind would rebel and try to force me to think of it even more.

I recommend just letting your mind do what it does, relax and trust in yourself (know its not your thoughts but your mind processing thoughts) and when you have thoughts you don't want, note to youself they are not yours let them come as they do and they will go. Don't try and stop thinking about them, don't blame yourself for them or you will become afraid.

I had similar experiences with thinking about stabbing things (usually me being stabbed) the more I tried not to think of it the worse it became. In the end I just got used to the idea that it was just my mind working and I knew I would never do such things and let my mind go wild (knowing nothing was real but thoughts), after I had thought all the thoughts it stopped and generally I don't think such things now (I think its just my mind wanted to process all the possibilities and I was denying it ones I was scared of or didn't like).

Sanaeo

replied on September 19th, 2009

New User

I almost have the same problem. I have thought about weird things happening to people, in my surrounding or in my imagination. I thought I must be stressed or be less hopeful in my thinking. I often image accidents to people, but not to people I don't like or don't know. I feel uneasy, but when I am busy, especially when studying, those thoughts disappear and only the bad feeling remains. also this bad scared feeling regenerate my weird thoughts again. Therefore, I try to ignore the thoughts by concentrating on another thing while awaking my good feelings/emotions in that certain thing (that I know I would not regret if I did). This used to help me ALOT. By I have to keep doing that constantly without being hurt by anyone. otherwise, I tend to go back to my crazy state.
My action is not much controlled by my thoughts, but I can tell that emotionally I have definitely changed toward those I love (people affected by my thoughts), even though I am aware that these thoughts are not real and do not represent me.

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