Risk of HIV exposure ?

Dear Members, i had two exposure one in aug09 & 2nd in feb10, i was using a condom in both exposure,in 1st exposure condom fails, and in 2nd exposure its perfact, however i had started some symptoms during 1st exposure therefore my doc suggest me test so i done hiv test it come nagative (0.237) in oct. and 2nd test for my 1st exposure in done in jan10 again its come back nagative (0.297) with little high value. And during 2nd exposure condom was perfact but lady was bleeding bedly due to her periods. After few day i had done unprotected sex with my wife. Approx after 2 weeks she had pain in upper back its remain for a week and gone again after few days its come back for a day, and now she had pain in her chest for last 5 to 6 days & sore & psin in throth. Even i had some symptoms like pain & sore in throth, little itching in top of my panis skin and Mild headaches and a dizziness which remains for the whole day & stiffness & pain in back of back for last two days also upper & lower back pain... i just want to know, what is risk of hiv in this case, and should i need more test for 2nd exposure due to symptoms of me and my wife, are this symptoms are hiv/ars symptoms Please help & Thanks for ur support