I have been with my partner for 1.5 years, me 25 and well him 21. Like every relationship we have had our ups and downs, but i think i may be at a point where i am ready for more than the other. I am ready to settle down, have a family and just move on with life where as he is more into bars and friends and even admittedly said he is not ready to settle down.
I got together with him after my relationship ended with an amazing speed of one month, my relationship prior very stressful, emotionally abusive. He was just getting out of a relationship with his bf at the time and so we jumped in rather quickly. Admittedly we are both the type that doesnt like being alone, so we were fast to the punch and obviously took the opportunity to grow together. After about 5 months i find out he cheated on me with his ex whom he was still living with at the time, needless to say we got back together and worked through things.
I am ready to settle down and move on, dont enjoy the bars, have and excellent job, everything i need. Him not so much talking of going back to school not sure of where he wants to live, generally avoids any question regarding the future. Yes we do love each other very much and yes he is very honest with his love now, but i think he is still not ready to take the jump.
Would i be wrong to end the relationship? or should i try and stick things out. I think personally that he needs to meet someone who isnt looking to settle down, YES he deserves love and is an amazing person but he needs someone who isnt looking to settle down and start the home life. what are your thoughts?
It doesn't sound like he's ready to start taking the steps that you are. Women mature emotionally faster than men, and your needs are fairly mainstream. I don't think that ending the relationship would be mean...I think that it's wise. IF you are kind and leave things with him well, you could also preserve your friendship with him.
dump him and dont look back.
i was 26y.o & my ex was 21 y.o. and i wanted to settle down, and he wanted to go to nudy bars, clubs, he looked at other women.......
he was 5 years younger than me and it showed. i thought that i could wait and see if he grew up, and i waited for 5 years & he never caught up to me.
i dont usually date younger guys, i date older guys the ones that feel like they "been there done that" and ready to settle down. he was a waist of 5 years.