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ready for marriage ?

how do you know when your ready for marrige,
i feel like im ready the guy im wit is super nice
and i trust him.but im young i honestly dont want
to wait and i have been wit him for only six months.
im scared to tell my mom because honestly money
wise were not ready.but love wise and commentment wise
we both are.the scary thing though my firend try to make it
sink into me that hes not always going to be commented and
hell cheat on me.(because of their past experince).and most
guy cheat on thier girls in high schol.so it kinda does get to me
will comment back please for advice.
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replied May 1st, 2009
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your in high school and your ready to get married! my response to you is wait and see if he really is the one instead of getting married and feeling you made a mistake.
how do you know when your ready for marriage. when you've been with a person you love so much and never felt this way about anyone else, when the worlds stops when your in his presences, when he has been with your through think and thin...prover he really loves you.when yall are able to buy a house, car, and have a job to support yourselves.
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replied May 2nd, 2009
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i really really hate to be the bearer of bad news but high school relationships rarely last...opportunities such as college make it really hard for couples to make it..plus..people change..years down the road you may not be the same person..I'm not the same person I was in high school...rushing into this isn't smart..if marriage is forever(like its supposed to be) then why not wait? I thought I knew my bf at 6 months...let me tell you..i was WRONG..there are so many more things I figured out about him as time went on..some good some bad..I'm just saying..you may THINK you know him..but 6 months is a short amount of time to decide that you want to be with someone for the rest of your life
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replied May 2nd, 2009
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it usually takes about 6 months to get to really know someone (their good, bad and the ugly). that's why some relationships last 9-10 months because after the 6 months is over some people find out that they really don't want to be with that person.
your still young your finding out about yourself. and your thoughts, perception, likes and dislikes will change.
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replied June 19th, 2009
I married my husband after only 2 months, at 20 years old. However, due to past relationship experiences, it felt right. I was in a relationship for 3 years and I have still never felt anything like I feel with my husband. I advise you wait, if you are in high school. My 3 year relationship was a high school relationship, and I too thought at one point I was ready to marry him. But as time went on, we both changed, and I grew, and I fell out of love with him. You don't know what will happen when you are that young. Wait until you are at least 20 I would say, and probably even longer than that. I am very young to be married and my relationship is still new. I have no regrets, and I love my husband, but I still realize that most circumstances like ours would not work out.
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replied June 19th, 2009
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i dont mean to be rude but you hear young people talk about having babies as if it's teddy bears, and getting married as if it's like a "happy ever after" cartoon.
to be fair to our youth, i remember i was innocent i though that about marriage, having a family. but i never wanted it at a early age.

a lot of parents dont talk about sex, so they find out by their friends. there friends isnt going to tell them that people get pregnant on their first try (like me). that it's good to wait, or they should use protection, that they can get an STD, be confused about who gave it to them and be sitting in a hospital for antibiotics.

many parents didnt have that talk to their children about how special they are and they should be with a partner that will always respect them, and love them.
it's just ashame that these hungry curious teens has to go to a website to look for their answers.
just thinking of this im going to be more open and available with my teenaged son.
thanks you listening.
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