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so yea i got my new issue of cosmo and i've been going thru some things(most of you have read my posts) its titled 5 things to never tell your guy
1. past hookup
2.how you spend your money
3.the way you feel about his family
4.what you really think of his gift
5. INNOCENT FLIRTATIONS

number 5 is what surprised me cause i've read some books on
relationships and why do they all they all keep saying that innocent flirting with other men/women is healthy in a relationship as long as it doesnt go any further? supposedly they say that it boost your self esteem especially if your stuck in a rut type relationship(i.e your boyfriend doesnt compliment you,takes you for granted etc and for guys they love their girl but still wanna feel that the opposite sex is still attracted to you etc.) its a male thing....

i forgot the title of one book but it even said that the feel good feelings that you get after innocently flirting is something you can bring into the bedroom. whats your opinion on this ladies? i was giggling when i read all this but it somehow makes sense cause i did that once with a guy i was dating years ago lol

we werent in a serious relationship just dating but i knew he flirted with other girls but didnt take it any further an so did i. in the end we both felt good cause we had our egos boosted and were feeling that we still had it goin on even though we were together lol
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replied March 10th, 2008
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anybody? any input?lol
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replied March 10th, 2008
Well, im a guy. The way i see it, if you both love eachother still, its kinda like a play thing you got going on. You mess around with a few people, than you come home for the real fun..

As long as it stays that you like him, and he likes you, and you can tell, itll probably happen..oh what do i know lol
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replied March 10th, 2008
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I got this issue too, and really, I never listen to Cosmo when it comes to stuff like that. You shouldn't tell him how you spend your money? Well, once you start sharing a bank account, you might want to start being a bit more open about it.

To be honest, I wouldn't innocently flirt with someone and if I were to, I think I would tell my SO. I think things like that can escalate, and you hear about it all the time. I'd rather keep the lines open, and if either of us has a problem with it, we can stop it before it gets too far. I think that if the relationship isn't serious, and you're just dating, then it's not really a big deal. But in a long term relationship, keeping things from your SO usually won't lead to anything good.
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replied March 10th, 2008
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I read that article with my boyfriend. I'm not a flirty person in general so I feel like I don't really apply, especially that when I realize I might be flirting with someone else I get uncomfortable very easily. I'll flirt with my guy and get confidence through him. Unless my boyfriend is up to visit I mainly where sweatpants and a sweatshirt so I'm not really in a confidence-boost mood unless he's around anyways. Very Happy

He tells me when a girl starts flirting with him. I don't care though because I know he's into me and not anyone else.
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replied March 11th, 2008
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I agree... I don't need to flirt with other guys to boost my confidence, nor do I have the desire to. I know my bf is attracted to me, and he doesn't flirt with other women. And I don't really care what other guys think of me.
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replied October 26th, 2008
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i have a bit of a problem...because boys will flirt with me all the time..and i dont really flirt back..but its like everything i say people make it come off as flirting...but idk how to change that.

but im somewhat flirty but not to the extreme...and i have a little insecurities with that and a bit hypocritical because i dont want him to flirt with his "girl" friends but i still flirt with my "guy" friends...somewhat.
you know what i mean...but i mean,i dont do it intensionally!
because i love my boyfriend and i dont look at any other boy in any other way and i try to tell myself thats how he feels...but idk.its hard to believ that!
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replied October 29th, 2008
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pfft past hook ups! thats one of the first things I asked my boyfriend! I think its wrong to hide your past sexual history..I dont wanna be with a guy who feels the need to hide that sort of thing..I wanna know how many women you've been with before I get physical with you! My boyfriend has only been with one other girl(his ex) and i've only been with him..i think any guy with a long sexual history would automatically be a deal breaker for me...I just think its nasty to share juices with so many people...sex should be special and if it isn't then...i'm not going to bother with a relationship with that person Smile ..thats my view on things..i agree with what the other person said on the topic "how you spend your money"..when you get married whats mine is yours and whats yours is mine..so yes its my business how you spend OUR money bc i'm not forkin out all the dough for the bills!!! the others I guess I could agree that those could be left alone and kept to yourself...innocent flirtations ehh..i mean i'm not a flirtatious person, my boyfriend kinda is..i think it'd make me upset to hear about his innocent flirtations(which is dumb I know) so i'd just rather he keep them to himself bc i know he loves me...as for me..if a guy gives me a compliment or hits on me i'm not going to run straight to my bf and tell him to try to make him jealous..yea it makes you feel good but big deal..i wanna hear i'm beautiful from MY man not some random dude
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replied December 10th, 2008
Yeah, don't ever tell us those things.

No matter what you say in the back of our minds we are going to think you are lying about it.
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