So recently my relationship of 4 years ended when my girlfriend cheated on me, she told me she stopped caring about me 2 years ago and was just keeping me around until she could find someone else. This was my first girlfriend, I never dated in high school and just generally been a failure with women, so my question is; how appealing am I?

I'm 23 years old, I'm over weight but not terribly so, I'm 5'10 and 180 pounds. I've got glasses, blue-green eyes and shoulder length dark blonde hair and a small goatee/mustache combo. I tend to mostly wear t shirts and jeans, I generally prefer comfort over style but I'm not opposed to dressing up for the right occasions (I think I actually look pretty good in a suit). I've never really like sports, I'm just not a very competitive person and haven't gotten into them. I am a gamer, mostly prefer RPGs or action/adventure games. Yes I'm still enough of a dork to play D&D with someone if invited, although there's only so far I'm willing to take it (I don't dress up or do the voices or anything). I like animals, I prefer cats but I like dogs too, especially if they're one of the smarter breeds like a Beagle or German Shepherd. I have odd taste in movies, I like B-movies, the kind of movies that are so bad they're funny, like Howard the Duck or Attack of the Killer Tomatoes, but my two favorite movies are probably Clerks and Army of Darkness. I have a weird sense of humor, which is a problem sometimes when people can't tell if I'm kidding or not. Chances are that if I suggest you feed an energy drink to a squirrel just to see what happens, I'm not being serious. Even though I'm not very good with relationships, I still love being in love; I remember birthdays and anniversaries, and I love sending flowers for no reason, things like that. Most of my previous jobs have been in kitchens, so I like to cook for people who appreciate it and I'm especially good with homemade pizza and Italian food, and I'm working towards a degree in Software Engineering right now too.

So that's me in a nutshell, I know I'm probably a unique taste. I realize I might be able to improve my appearance by cutting my hair or getting a more expensive wardrobe or something, but I actually like the way I look. It just feels like if I'd have to change the way I look and act to get someone to like me, then it wouldn't be real, they wouldn't like me but rather someone I'm pretending to be. Sorry if this seems kind of stupid, I'm just feeling kind of down lately and could use the reassurance that I'm appealing to more than just one woman in the world.