3.5 years ago I was in a severely abusive relationship that completely destroyed my life. Since then, I have been diagnosed with PTSD, am now in my last year of college, and have had a rather impressive recovery with waning nightmares, flashbacks, and panic attacks. In August I started dating a friend of mine I met at a New Years Party and everything suddenly became a lot worse all over again. Overall we have a very happy and healthy relationship; however, I continuously ruminate over what happened and worry that non-existent problems in our relationship will happen. I tried to get in contact with my old therapist who has since moved on to a different practice. While the symptoms are decreasing again as our relationship progresses, does anyone have any suggestions on what I can do now to help them not stress both of us out as much? Your input would mean the world to me and my significant other.
as a fellow anxiety sufferer i know how and what you are felling and what you are going through. although ptsd is not the same as gad the symptoms are very much similar have you tried talking to your current partner or even trying to get in another practise for a pysciatrist maybe going back to the doctor to see if their is anything else he/she can do. why dont you try and write down everything from your past, what you went through, where you lived , how you were brought up and etc and then read back what you have wrote bit like a biography for yourself. if it doesnt show any physical side to your relationship and your both happy in love maybe he'll understand when you open your heart to him just so he knows what you are feeling. Make a meal get a bottle of wine with some candles and set the mood with some music that might help you if confiding in him. do some relaxation run a bath etc.... didnt work for me but it might work for you everyones different in everyway hope you take this advice ..... if it hasnt helped then im sorry.
thank you so much for your reply. I have written out the biography portion as part of my therapy before, and going through that helped me a lot because I would have to calm down every time I physically reacted to what I read or read aloud.
Our relationship is stunted physically because I avoid letting it go further, and he's been very understanding about that. We have talked, and we've both agree that I need to do something.
I just want to be able to relax and stop the irrational thoughts and projecting them onto him.