thank you so much for your reply. I have written out the biography portion as part of my therapy before, and going through that helped me a lot because I would have to calm down every time I physically reacted to what I read or read aloud.
Our relationship is stunted physically because I avoid letting it go further, and he's been very understanding about that. We have talked, and we've both agree that I need to do something.
I just want to be able to relax and stop the irrational thoughts and projecting them onto him.