The only thing you can do is just wait and
try to avoid stress! my boyfriend and me
were 2,5 years together, we had a long
distance relationship. Baby/family has
been always a topic as we are both between
36 and 40. So we never used anything, to
tell the truth, we even tried it, but
never happend. ...until last june, when I
got pregnant. I thought it will be great
news for him. But it wasnt. He was in
denial, angry, sad, everything at one
time..until august, then we spent several
weeks together, we decided to keep the
baby and he was also very emotional.
Couple of weeks later he changed again,
then back again and so on. On one hand he
is happy an the other he says he wont give
his name and that its my child, if the
relationship wont work, he wont take care
for the child. At the moment he is again
in a kind of a denial mood. I am now 22
week pregnant, try give him space and
time, but he also should know, that I am
the one who needs support and tenderness
now. As we almost never see eachother, I
am prepaired being a single mom, as it is
definitely better then having all the time
ups and downs in the relationship.Some men
need definitely more time, some wake up
only after birth, so just let the time
decide everything. They dont feel
pregnancy as we feel it. Romantical
reactions only exist in hollywood movies,
cause al men, even in the healthiest
marriage got mixed emotions when they
hear, that their wife is pregnant.
Sometimes even they dont know what they
feel.Of course, I dont want to defend
a...holes, but a certain anxiety is
normal. good luck