PhillyBunt,
It is quite possible that your doctor is afraid of opiate addiction for you because of your age, but at the same time, that is not an excuse for forcing you to suffer in the pain that you are in.
If you are unable to function because of the pain, then you need treatment and you need it now.
As I said before, you need the proper evaluation from a spinal surgeon, not a family doctor or GP.
Spinal surgery can be very scary, but in the hands of a skilled and experienced surgeon, there isn't a problem. The risk of paralysis at the L4/L5/S1 area is very remote as a result of surgery, but the risk of permanent nerve damage from compressed nerves can be very high.
Those include permanent loss of bowel and/or bladder control, sexual function, foot drop and permanent nerve pain.
How long it would or could take to develop any or all of those problems, no doctor can tell you, but it can and does happen. In my case it took 4 months and I lost bladder control, but regained it all within 2 hours of having spinal surgery to release the nerve compression at the L4/L5/S1.
A rehabilitation doctor can be a chiropractor, a physical therapist that has a doctorate in physical therapy, and a doctor that works to rehab patients that have muscle and nerve damage.
You should google the name of the doctor that you doc gave you to see and find out what type of doctor he is and what he does.
Based on what you have posted, it sounds like your doctor is giving you the run around and really isn't sure how to treat you and what to do.
At the very least he should have referred you immediately to a spinal surgeon for proper evaluation. He is not in a position to advise you on what the proper care should be, nor does he know what it should be and his information is not correct about a herniated disc either.
Yes they can re-herniate again after surgery, and then again, then may never reherniate or ever have any problems for the rest of your life.
My brother is 54 years old. He herniated a disc his senior year in HS from an injury playing varsity ice hockey.
He had surgery to repair the disc within 2 months of the accident, recovered and was fine. Went on to play college ice hockey for 4 years in college and has never had another spine problem since his senior year in HS.
It sounds like you have a serious stenosis of your lumbar vertebrae and what isn't clear from what you have said is if the herniation of the disc is causing the stenosis or if the stenosis is from the narrowing of the foramen of the vertebrae and it is forcing the disc to herniate.
A spinal surgeon will be able to answer those questions for you and the treatment would be very different, depending on the cause.
You need to be very, very assertive with your doctor and demand a referral to a spinal surgeon for proper evaluation.
Can one or both of your parents go with you to the doctor so that they can support you to be more assertive as well as ask your doctor why he won't prescribe some pain meds for you that will help to alleviate your pain?
Your doctor should have started you on an increasing dosage of neurontin to help ease the nerve pain as well.
If your doctor refuses to refer you to a spinal surgeon then you need to find a new doctor right away that will refer you and properly treat you.
You are in dire need of evaluation and proper treatment that only a spinal surgeon can provide you.
Oh, and many times, physical therapy will help to heal a herniated disc, but it takes time, about 8 weeks to work. But it will only help if the disc is herniated and causing the stenosis in the spine. If the stenosis is causing the herniation than you will need more treatment than just PT.
Good luck and keep us posted.
Fran