Hi there previous poster -
I posted right before your reply and wanted to give you and everyone else an update. I am now 3 months post-op, have returned to my work (retail, grocery, heavy lifting) and my ''normal'' life such as I have decided to define it.
Really, for the most part, I feel great. I have been single and celibate for a while, so don''t know how the sex part will work out, but I am optimistic. Every once in a while, things feel like they are moving back, for lack of a better description, but I think it is just my body getting used to its new configuration.
What I am doing: lifting probably up to 35-40 lbs at work, but trying to do that verrrry sporadically. Walking to work and back (2.5 miles each way) and then on my feet constantly for a 6-hr shift. I am also cycling 15-30 miles at a time and lifting light (up to 8 lb.) weights in home exercise video.
All in all, despite my dread of messing something up and having to repeat the surgery, I am trying to conduct my life as normally as possible and much as I did pre-op. I am extremely cognizant, though, that although I was told I have no limitations (except for that funny remark by the gyn right before surgery, ha ha, thanks a lot, doc), I approach anything involving heavy lifting with much more caution. I had also overheard a friend say that someone she knew who had the surgery basically just ''felt something pop'' when she was removing a kayak from the roof of her car, thus rendering her surgery an ultimate failure. DO NOT WANT THAT TO HAPPEN.
Also for the previous poster, I am sure that if you have looked online much or talked to anyone else your age, you will find that this problem is MUCH more common than you''d thought. It is kind of like suicide, another ''taboo'' subject with which I am unfortunately intimately familiar with: once you mention it to someone, they almost always know someone else who has had an experience with it.
I wish you a most positive outcome and hope that you will find mine encouraging. There are so many complainers on so many sites, and I think that the majority of people do have good outcomes but don''t feel a need to vent about that.