Problems during sex...too tight?

Hey laliga,

I have that problem too. My girlfriend can become very tight, and well, penetration becomes impossible until I do a few things.

A girl being tight is probably nervousness, and that she has some really defined muscles down there that she DOESN'T know how to control.

So as you penetrate her, her muscles tense up and well, you know what happens.

For one, a water based lube works wonders if she is not wet enough. Using water based lube on your penis is also great, it will reduce the friction and she will naturally stretch as you thrust.

Another technique to loosen up her nerves, is well, a few drinks of alcohol for her, join in too so it doesn't feel like you are drugging her for play-rape.

Girlfriend just showed up, gotta go, I'll finish the rest of my reply later (it will be large).

Now to continue.

Positions are important yes. There is not a best position for a really tight girl, though any position where you can spread her legs wide open helps.

If you allow her to close her legs, she has an easier time clenching (subconsciously).

If you decide to do any variation of doggy style, spread her legs so they are out side of your legs, your legs will be between her.

Do you want to cum quickly when she gives you oral? Is it something she complains about?

I personally choose when I want to cum, during intercourse and during oral. So I just enjoy the ride, and sometimes don't ejaculate (which is good for your energy levels).

Hold your breath more, and you will ejaculate faster. You likely have secondary effects of lasting longer from your breathing or other exercises you do.

Now, the play rape thing, girls have different fantasies, and that could be your girls. Though it's likely a deep down scar she has, so be wary of what you might be doing.

Some girls like to be choked, others like to be slapped. Personally I spank the girls I'm with while I'm doing them. Even if they don't like it, they mostly like it.

Is it ok to do? Well, it's up to you. There is nothing more powerful than saying NO, and telling her why you won't do that. "I will never rape a girl and play raping you is turning me off. I'll be rough, but I won't rape you babe."

Try talking to her while you are easing into her and maybe a little mood music. Don't rush is most important.

Just put your penis at her entrance with just a little pressure and cuddle and caress each other and don't worry if penetration doesn't happen - she will let you in when you are both relaxed and ready and you probably won't even notice...

Clearly you are also uptight as it is taking you longer to cum at her hands (or mouth).

You are worrying about this stuff too much. Sex should be fun and it should be satisfying and it can't be either if you are uptight.
Not many people learn to ride a bike first time - it takes time and practice, so does sex...

My advice about play rape is don't! Leave that sort of game until you know each other very well, extremely well indeed...

what is the best way to last long or exercise ?

The best way to exercise is just practice.

Do you know how to control your PC muscles?

IF not, start by holding in your pee for one second, let it flow for one second, hold in in again and repeat until you run out of pee. You do this while you are peeing.

Start with this, there are many more steps to last longer, though this is the best start.