This is my first time posting on this and it took me a bit of time to build up the courage to do so.

This is a bit of a long story but, I am now 19 and I think I am back to sqaure one with a few of my problems I had years before.

I started masterbating when I was about 11 or 12 nearly every day, sometimes even twice a day and had done til I got to about 15/16 when I felt embarassed about my first time having sex when I was 16.

I decided to stop masterbating when my long-term girlfriend and I started to have sex. At this time, I could have a full erection no problem, we could do foreplay and do everything and I would be fine, I would last about the normal time every normal guy would. But the minute we'd try to have sex and I'd put it in and about half a minute later I'd feel like I was almost at "the point of no return" so I'd pull out and let myself relax for a little bit then I'd put it back in again and as soon as I put it in again I'd feel like that was the case again, so I'd pull out really quickly and I'd ejaculate.

I stopped masterbating for a few weeks and continued a bit of foreplay with my partner whenever we'd meet up, possibly once or twice a week and I started to gradually get better at my self control when having sex and started to last longer and my confidence grew.

For about 2 years, I could have great sex with my girlfriend, have a full good-working erection and last about the usual 15-25 and then last a lot longer the second time round. We would have sex possibly twice or three times a week, twice or even three times every time we'd spend time together.

Since my girlfriend and I split up about 5 months ago I started to go back into my old habits of masterbating again.

I tried to have sex with a new partner and I feel like I'm back at square on again, but only this time,I have no problem holding an erection when I'm myself masterbating, but now I feel like I only get about 3/4 erect when I'm with a partner (it's strange cos i'm really attracted to her).

When put it in I can only last about 30 seconds and I start to get to that "point of no return".

I've put on about a stone and a half (21-22 lbs) in the past year or so, possibly because of my diet or the fact I binge drink once or sometimes twice a week during the weekend.

I was just wondering if you could help me in my situation that has knocked my confidence in the bedroom quite a bit.


What do you think this could be down to?

Do you think it could the fact that I have been masterbating too much again and am used to my own rhythm?

Do you think I'm perhaps out of practice or feel too nervous or tense round a new partner?

Do you think it could be to do with the fact i've put on a bit of weigh and occasionally drink excessively?

I'm really confused and frustrated and need advice

Kind Regards!