I am 33 years old wife and I have been married for over sever years and my PME experience has gotten worse to the point where I ejaculated recently during floor play. When we have sex, it usually will last 1 minute at the most. I have been diagnoised with social anxiety and been seeing professinal help for that and I thought that might help in the bedroom and it has not. My wife and I are planning a vacation w/ the kids for first time since we've been married and I want to so badly make it a great romantic experience for both of us.
I have tried excercising, taking multiviatamins for men, eating better and I've also read about every website that talks about PME and some solutions (pills, creams, penis rings, profsseional help...etc, etc). Can you advise if there are any short term/long term solutions for my problem. I really don't want to go the professsional help rounte unless its absolutely the ONLY solution.
Hi there, thank you for posting your question on Ehealthforum. This is not intended as a substitute to visiting your own doctor.
I think you are describing so-called premature ejaculation. This is a complex subject, all I can do here is a thumbnail sketch about treatments. You basically have three choices and you can use any one of these or a combination of all:
(1) The DIY approach. This includes masturbation some hours before intercourse. Prolonging foreplay before intercourse. More forceful intercourse to bring her to orgasm quickly. The wearing of several condoms to reduce sensitivity. The use of OTCs like anaesthesia gels to reduce sensitivity. Most of these things yield disappointing results
(2) Behavioural Therapy. These are best learned through Sex Therapy sessions where the femaleâs attitude to quick ejaculation can also be accessed. They involve stop/start techniques and learned behaviour designed to control ejaculation. These take time to learn but can be very effective.
(3) Use of mediations like the SSRIâs and certain decongestant. These can be very effective and perhaps only used for special occasions.
One way or the other you should discuss this with your doctor or have yourself referred to a Sex Councillor.Under your circumstances use of a SSRI might be best for the moment. I feel very confident that you will improve quickly. I hope you found this a bit helpful. Good luck.
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