I recently discovered I am pregnant. I have a protective order against the father. He and I were together for over five years. There has been a history of abuse against me. In late September, another incident of abuse took place and I finally called the police. He was arrested and is facing assault charges. The very next afternoon, I went to court and was granted a temporary protective order. A week later, I had to attend a final protective order hearing. He showed up with a lawyer and fought me over it. The judge granted the order for one year. He has appealed the PO and I am facing another hearing this coming Wednesday. During the downtime, I found out I was pregnant. My lawyer informed his lawyer, but there has been no response.
I am considering abortion. I am 34 years old and I have always dreamed of having a child. I have thought about trying to get him to give up his paternal rights, but I know he would not just to spite me. He has physically and emotionally abused me and the thought of him having access to my child has me scared to death. I cannot imagine what would happen if a child made him angry. He doesn't believe he has an anger problem. I'm seeking any advice.
Babes i would say dont terminiate, because you are 34 you ant getting any younger, to be real they have alot out there to help you, and advice you, from staying away from him, if its your dream of becoming a mum then do it for your self, a man can walk out on a woman or hes family any time sweets, life is not perfect, if it was we all would be very happy, with a man for our self's and would not have to share with any one else.
so if you want this babes, do it for your self , that lil face went he or she is born will make u happy for the rest of your life, there are a lot of women on this site that are on this web site that are in the same boat as us.x so dont worry it all gets better xxxx
Sweetheart, I am in a similar situation. My bf of 5 yrs after i told him I was pregnent has been on a 3 weeks drinking binge. He has a history of both physical and emotional abuse with me as well, and I am scared to death that he will negatively affect my child. I am choosing to keep it because i was never supposed to get pregnent. Honestly, I am considering telling him i got an abortion but then running away with it. He has made it clear he doesn't want this kid and he has been treating me horribly since i told him. My advice to you is to fight for your baby. if he is already in trouble with the law, you have a good shot of not having to share custody with him at all. I wish you the best of luck, and anything you find that works please pass it along.
I was seeing my ex for 6months n i am 10weeks pregnant, i finished my relationship with him because he lost his temper with my 5 year old son from a previous relationship. I dont know what to do, he wont leave me alone keeps asking me to be with him n saying he wants to be there for me and the baby, but i cannot trust him around my son and wont be able to trust him with this baby! My family and friends say i should abort, and part of me thinks that is the right thing to do but my heart says no, and to keep and protect my baby. My 5year old knows about the baby and he is very excited about being a big brother. The babys father stays close to me and i dont see him ever leaving me alone when the baby is born, his ex girlfriend is now in homeless accomodation because he threatened her during an argument. She said he has previously been physically violent to her. I am scared to move away and have the baby as i would be alone with no support from family or friends. what should i do?