So here the story My girl says she is 3 to 4 weeks pregnant about a week later she goes in for her birth control shot the doctor does not check to see if she is pregnant later on that day she start spotting I ask her to take two HPT the next day they come back negative about a couple of weeks later she says she has a sharp bladder pain i ask her agian to take two more HPT to see if she still pregnant or is just her body messing with her agian its negative its been about three to four months now and she says she has been feeling fine and no weight gain and no belly showing.My question is. Is she pregnant or did she miscarry due to the birth control shot or was she never really pregnant. been searching around a lot to see if anyone has an answer so please help me iam a guy and this is driving me nuts iam only 18 and know iam not ready to be a father but am not running away from it either. Also plesae do not suggest blood test or ultrasound cant do seeing as she dosent want anyone one to know.
If your girl had miscarried, she would have lost lots of blood and experienced some blood clotting with pain. Perhaps, for whatever reason she told you she was when she wasn't pregnant. It is very unusual for a doctor or his professional staff advertantly give a patient a birth control shot without asking if they are pregnant or giving a pregnant test or asking when was their last period. The doctor and his staff only go by what the patient says, if the patient says they had their period at a certain time that is what they go by. You didn't mention how old your girl is but by you being 18 you have the rest of your life ahead of you. I agree with you, with all the things you should be at that age, a Father isn't one of them. I applaud you wanting to be responsible and stepping up to the plate had you became one. Now, I don't think you are but you very well could be if you and your girl continue to do parental sexual acts without protection. Take some good sound advice and don't trust having sex with your girl again, she just may want you to be a Father when you don't want to be. Finish school, go to college, and some day wipe your brow and say, "Whew, that was dumb."