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Q: Pregnant or lying ?

asked by: aliceinchains06 on December 4th, 2008

New User

Ok, just this past monday my girlfriend well... (ex girlfriend whom i broke up with this past saturday) told me she was pregnate.
This came very sudden and out of the blue seeing as she has showed absolutely no symtoms prior to this. she claims she is about 6-7 weeks and took 2 pregnancy tests that says she is positive. I live 200 miles away from her and i have not been able to see the tests. In the past we have been off and on and i can remember 2 other times when we broke up that she said she might be pregnate but has never gone this far.
Today i was talking to her about the situation trying to find out everything i could about what is going on. i'm not going to lie.. I am 20 years old in college and nowere near ready or want a child but i am prepaired to accept my responsabilitys.

The reason i broke up with her is i found out about 6-7 weeks ago she went down to her ex boyfriends house and spent the weekend there. Seeing as i live 200 miles away i only get to see her every once in a while and saw her 2 times in october from 10 weeks ago to the most recent in that time frame being 4 weeks ago.

Now the point i am making... I asked her today if there is any chance that it might not be mine seeing as she did spend the weekend with him.. she followed the question with a very long pause, after i asked again she finally said an unsure yes she is sure and she is sure it would be mine... then i asked what kind of pregnancy test she used (quallity wise) she couldnt even tell me what kind of test it was. Then i asked her if i could make a doctors appointment and came home to take her there. she told me NO i dont want you to make the appointment and NO i dont want you to go with me.

I have had my doubts about her pregnancy not that i dont want a part of my kids life if she is pregnante... but just if this is some type of ploy to get me back. She also told me if i were to stay with her forever she would get an abortion... (i understand there are people on here that are compleatly against this but i regret to say we had discussed the option she was strongly against the idea untill i said i would stay with her)

What i am asking here.. is if there is anyone out there pregnate or not... or if you have had experience with this... if your babys father was trying to help and was in the situation i am in living far away... and offered to come home take you to the doctor (pay for it) and take full finantial and physical responsablity for the event... wouldnt you want him to be a part of it? would you say NO i dont want you to go? no i dont want you to make an appointment? but when it came to being with the girl she wants you to be there? my feelings of her lieing are compleatly reinforced after this... i just want to know what you all think especially if you are pregnate and in a situation were the father lives a ways away or even if he does want a part in the event regardless of how freaked out he is..
Thank you very much in advance
Austin

Replies(5)

Lilly Ivy

replied on December 4th, 2008

Extremely eHealthy

I'd wait for proof.

If she wants an abortion if you are together, but will continue the pregnancy if you are not together, it sounds like a plan to get and stay with you.

If it turns out she is pregnant and has the baby, make sure it's yours before you do anything. I'm not sure how much DNA tests are, but I assume they are a lot less expensive than diapers. So if she wants you to pay for something, or if she puts you on the birth certificate, I'm pretty sure you don't have to do anything (unless you want to) before there is a DNA test done.

A heads up, if you did something 10wks ago and she is 7wks now, it is possible it's yours. I blame the doctors for it being so weird and messed up like that...

Mabel

replied on December 4th, 2008

Moderator

Sounds as if she is using potential pregnancy to manipulate you.

Listen, IF she is pregnant she needs to see a doctor - which she sounds reluctant to do. You question why and the reason she gives sounds hokey.

Go with your gut instinct at this point. You should demand she go see a doctor or you will be done with the entire ordeal.

She can get FREE pregnancy testing and proof of pregnancy from Planned Parenthood.

aliceinchains06

replied on December 4th, 2008

New User

ok i got her to schedual a appointment for tomorrow, im driving home to take her... she doesnt want me too ... she wanted a friend to but i did Demand that i went... thank you Very Happy

haha

i also just found out that exactly 10 weeks ago she was with her ex boyfriend and they DID have UN protected sex 9 weeks ago she was with me and we also did... heh.. sickening eh?
now i was looking at the pregnancy calander things and it sounds like from what she was telling me week 6 describes her to a small margine... would it be possible that it would be from me or him? or being that i was sooner is it more likely to be mine if she is pregnate?
And when would i be able to find out for sure if it is mine? i was reading that they can determine blood type half way through and seeing as i have type 0 negative blood i figured that would at least help in possibly determining if it was mine or not... i just dont know what hers or her ex boyfriends blood types are...

anyway thanks so much for the help and advice

AyaMiyaki

replied on December 4th, 2008

Especially eHealthy

First of all, you need to determine whether or not she's pregnant. Once that's determined, she'll need an ultrasound to accurately date the pregnancy. Depending on how far along she is, it might not be possible for you to be the father due to timing.

Paternity testing is possible during pregnancy, but it's risky and many doctors won't agree to do it. It would probably be better for all involved if you wait until after the baby is born before worrying about DNA tests. And before worrying about even that, you need to figure out whether she's even pregnant to begin with.

Mabel

replied on December 4th, 2008

Moderator

I want to add that if she has done this kind of thing in the past, and now you know she is having unprotected sex with you and at least one other guy - well, this should be a major wake up call in your relationship with her.

Sounds like you come running whenever she plays her 'pregnancy' card. And guess what? It worked again. You don't need a doctor's appointment, all you need is a home pregnancy test. Watch her take it. Read it within the time frame it gives on the test and if negative, trust it.

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