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Q: Pregnant 2 months post abortion

asked by: justme1gc on April 16th, 2009

New User

I don't know what to do, what to say...I feel like a complete fool so please to those against abotion...really i already know can we just avoid any additional drama now? Anyway...I've had 3 abortions if i have this one it will be four i'm absolutely terrified...terrified either way. If i keep it, how many issues will i have not just for me but for this baby so soon after an abortion to be pregnant and if i don't keep it how many more additiona risks will there be with again just having had an abortion. I'm at a loss. I'm 26 and married but planning a divorce with 2 beautiful children. Yes...i had sex...unprotected but he said he'd "pull out" and i know I KNOW this doesn't always work...but i felt like if i didn't i was gonna lose my husband anyway. Having just had an abortion i couldn't handle thinking about losing him so soon after. I don't know...Yes again...boils down to stipidity and a baby shouldn't have to be involved. But stipid or not its here and regardless...If i keep it, it will be coming into a broken home with SOOOOO many issues and i just don't feel like it deserves it. I don't know.....

Replies(8)

mommy275

replied on April 16th, 2009

Experienced User

I'm just going to voice my opinion, I'm stuck in between feelings on abortion, some level I agree with it and some levels/cases I don't. But anyways, so your married you have 2 kids and there's family issues, if you have already had 3 abortions why don't you use birth control or condoms to prevent pregnancy so your not putting your self in this position over and over? I can't make the decision for you, but to go on and keep having these abortions isn't right either when you know the chances of becoming pregnant when having unprotected sex. What does your husband think?
You may want to consult a physician to find out the risks of having an abortion so soon after just having one.

justme1gc

replied on April 16th, 2009

New User

I have used birth control. Several differnt types actually. My husband refuses to use condoms...i had a concer scare a couple years back and told him he may need to from now on and he actually said we just would never make love again. Why i'm still here i dont know. But this last time, they told me i couldn't go back on birth control until after i got my first period. As soon as i got it i started but i know it does nothing for like the first 2 or 3 months. And like i said he refused to wear them, even went out and bought them for him. Like i said...i know its not his fault alone. I should've just stuck it out. But i didn't.

mommy275

replied on April 16th, 2009

Experienced User

Are you referring to the birth control does nothing for the first 2-3 months? If so, that's not true. When I went on my b/c my doctor told me to wait 24-48 hrs before having unprotected sex and after that I'd be protected. Some may vary but I've never heard of it being ineffective for that long. B/c pills are also not the only form of female b/c.
If I were in ur position I wouldn't have sex with him whether he left or not for that reason.
But what's done is done, like I said before, before you have another abortion you should talk to your doctor to make sure there's no serious health risks so soon after the previous abortion.

justme1gc

replied on April 16th, 2009

New User

yes...with pills i've been told that it can take up to 2-3 months b4 fully protected. If you've missed a few days or even a week the they would say just jump back on them and after 24-48 hours it should be fine. But if been off for a while it would take 2-3 months to regain proper protection. I've tried the patch and thats how resulted in one of the pregnancies...and i was RELIGEOUS about it so wasn't user error. I don't know. But yes i will consult a doctor thank you.

Phenicks

replied on April 19th, 2009

Experienced User

Get an abortion and a divorce ASAP. You don't want to be pregnant you don't have to be and you certainly don't have to remain married to your husband if you don't want to be. I hope everything works out for you and your children.

Zanadu111

replied on April 20th, 2009

New User

Real advice

Look, here's an answer that's helpful, instead of judging you - you are concerned about this abortion, which means you will regret it and feel really, really bad after you have it...right now you are worried about other things and you don't realize how bad you'll feel. Take it from me - same thing happened to me. So many people would give anything to have a child and they can't. So consider having it and giving it up for adoption to someone who really really wants a baby and has been waiting so long...or just have the child. After that, don't date anyone who won't use a condom. Believe me, the psychological effects of abortion will hurt you worse than having the kid. People who want to adopt will help you through this. I wish someone had given me this advice.

If you can decide you really really want the abortion, then do it, but if you're on the fence, hang in there.

justme1gc

replied on April 22nd, 2009

New User

I'm still on the fence about it all. I don't know what gonna happen with me and my husband. Honestly...I don't think we can make it thru this. I really really don't. And i don't know i can do 3 kids on my own. Yes child suppost yada yada yada...but its not just that. And i understand the psychological effects of having an abortion. Trust me. It tears me appart on a regular basis. But bringing a baby into a world thats already so broken where mom doesn't know how she is gonns hsndle thing i'm not sure is a good idea either. what kind of life would i be providing for this new baby. I have to think of my little ones that are already here also. I just dont know... I really just don't know...

habibti

replied on August 5th, 2009

New User

I am in the same type of position, and am wondering what the risks are if I can keep it.

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