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I am 16 and my boyfriend is 19. I am currently pregnant and my mom does not approve of it. She treats me like crap and i really cant take it anymore. She abuses me but ive always been to scared to do anything about it. I want to get emancipated but i need to know the ways to go about doing it. Please help, i need advice!
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replied March 20th, 2008
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Since you are 16, there isn't a whole lot you can do since you are still a minor, but you have a few options. The best thing to do is probably to find your local SRS and they can give you information and support. They see stuff like this all the time.

I can see why she would be upset, because you are her responsibility, but not your baby, but you can't really separate the two. Having a baby is for adults to do, so technically you should be doing everything else that an adult does, and quite frankly, you can't because you aren't old enough. It's hard for me to say exactly what the scenario should be here because I don't know what your family ground rules are.

You also have the option of making your boyfriend help you out. He IS the father and an adult, so he is going to have to provide some support to you and the baby.


Good luck.
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replied March 21st, 2008
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A lot of it depends on the state you live in, first off. You will probably need a lawyer. You have to prove that you are financially stable on your own and will have a place to stay and means of getting around (i.e. car) as well as that you are in an unsafe situation.

What role does your father play in your life? If he stil has guardianship, he may be able to help a ton.

Also, if you and your boyfriend get married, if thats something you are both interested in, you are considered emancipated. But of course, you need parental consult for that.
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replied March 21st, 2008
Well i live in Virginia and my father lives in Pennsylvania he hasnt really been in my life at all.
My boyfriend has a car and my friend and i were thinking about getting an apartment.
i was reading the laws in virginia and it says theres three different ways i can get emancipated and one that would actually work is if a judge grants it to me. so i was wondering if you think in my situation they would actually grant me emancipation?
My boyfriend has been living with me for about 3 months, i was talking to my mom yesterday about getting emancipated and she said if i did that to her then she would mess up my life so i couldnt, like tell them things that wouldnt let me get emancipated.
Do you think that since my mom new me and my boyfriend were having sex and during court she said something about it, do you think he would get in trouble. i mean she knew it was going on and didnt do anything about it.
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replied March 21st, 2008
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Yes, your mom could press charges against him unfortunately.

There's so much to think about before getting emancipated. Its very, very hard to do and will probably take a good year, which, by then you will have your baby. It is almost just better to try and work things out with your mom, as hard as it may be. Getting outside help such as counseling would be best.

Explore things with your father, see if there's anything he can/would do regardless of his past involvement in your life.
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replied March 21st, 2008
thank you =]
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replied March 21st, 2008
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How would you support yourself if you and your friend got an apartment?

Why has your mom been allowing your boyfriend to live in her home with you?
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replied March 22nd, 2008
i have a job and so does my boyfriend, my friend and i want to get an apartment together.

hes been living here because his parents are moving to another state.
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replied March 23rd, 2008
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Since someone mentioned marriage as a possibility of being emancipated I thought I would post this legal matter for you: it is for your state:

Age Requirements and Consent
The minimum age for marriage in the Commonwealth of Virginia is sixteen (16) years for both the bride and groom; however, if either party is under eighteen (1Cool, consent to the marriage must be given by the father, mother or legal guardian. This may be done in person by the parent or legal guardian before the person issuing the license or by written consent properly sworn to before a notary public. Special provisions are made in Virginia law to allow marriage for under age parties when the female is pregnant and for situations in which under age applicants have no parent or legal guardian.

http://www.vdh.state.va.us/Vital_Records/m arry.htm
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replied March 23rd, 2008
Ingi wrote:
How would you support yourself if you and your friend got an apartment?



This will be an important question in your hearing. Here are some other things to consider:
(This is just one county's questions, other counties/States may have different or additional questions.)

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What does the Judge or referee have to decide at the hearing?
A.

At the hearing the probate judge must order the minor emancipated if the judge determines that to be in the best interest of the minor. For the judge to make this determination the minor must be able to show that:

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Parents or guardian do not object or if they do object they are not providing support to the minor.
* The minor is at least 16 years old.

* The minor can manage his/her own finances and has either employment or means of support other than Public Assistance such as Food Stamps, TANF, State Disability.*

*One of the things that you need to prove to the Judge is that you are financially self-supporting without any assistance from government programs or your parents.

* The minor has the ability to handle personal and social affairs (including proof of housing).
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The minor understands his/her rights and responsibilities under this law. (The minor must read the emancipation law and understand it.)

It is up to the minor to convince the judge that all of these requirements are met. This is done through sworn testimony from the minor and any other persons the minor wants to have in the courtroom to testify about these areas.
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replied April 12th, 2009
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my son is 18 his girlfriend is 16 she got pregnant while he was 17 now her parents are saying the babys last name has to be theres my son is sighning the birth certificate soo her being 16 has the right to choose whos last name the baby will have?
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replied April 13th, 2009
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it is not the parents baby. neither you or her parents can force her to give that baby a last name, it is between her and your son what the childs name will be. Even though she is 16 her parents legally have no right over the child, and actually your son doesnt either if they are not married. In most states the birth mother has sole custody of the child and unless the father goes to court to get them the mother can take them away, so be wary of that incase something happens to break them up. Anyway, my suggestion when she talks about her parents pushing her to give her child a name your son should politely point out that its nice of them to give their input but in the end this baby is not theirs and they need to start making decisions for theyre child on their own. i hope this helps. I choose to give my son my last name but only because his father left me. If they are planning on staying together and getting married it will be a lot easier if the baby has your sons last name. Congrats on becoming a grandmother.--- kyra
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replied April 10th, 2011
ok i need help .. im 16 about turn 17 and me and my boyfriend wants to move into a house together .. but my mom does not like him .. no one likes him but me i love him to death and im thinking about getting pregnant so that way i can get emancipated from my mom so we can be together .. any help ... and i live in ohio .. and i know people that have done it ??
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