Pregnant by married man!!! Posted: 05-11-08 17:08pm
I know it sounds bad, but in my defense he
said he was separated and leaving. We have
been together for over a year. We spent
lots of time together but always was
suspicious of there relationship together.
We did talk of pregnancy and our life
together. I'm now 5 weeks preg. I called
her because this was such a huge deal and
I needed to know the truth. We exchanged
information and it was crazy to hear how
she thought their marriage was perfect.
When he found out I called he told me
immediately to have an abortion and said
he would make my life miserable if I went
through with it. He hates me now. He is a
wealthy attorney, and not sure what he is
capable of not to mention middle eastern
which they have totally different beliefs
than us american women. I am over extended
financially with buying a house and
private school for my 9 yr. old. I am 29
yrs old. Any advise. I feel very alone and
abandoned and betrayed. I am a good person
but very confused on whether to keep the
baby or not. Any advise?
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SuzieQ222
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 May 2008 Posts: 1
Be Strong! You are not alone. Posted: 05-14-08 16:40pm
Unfortunately, we all understand that
"separated" still means legally married.
However, it does not always mean
emotionally married or attached by the
strings of each others hearts. When I say
what I say, it is definitely not to judge,
because we have all done some things that
we are ashamed of. I know I have. We do
not need anyone else to remind of us of
our wrong doings. First and foremost, I am
a southern girl and I belive in asking for
forgiveness for the things we've done to
hurt others. And of course I'm talking
about God, not him or his wife or your
family. Sometimes when you are caught up
in situations like this you dont always
think about how your actions impact
others. What you both did was wrong.
However, long before you knew that you
would be pregnant by this man, God knew.
And if you ask he will forgive you. I dont
know if you have made a decision to have
this child or not. But it is definitely
your decision. Regardless of which way you
decide to go, it is a decision that you
are going to have to make and deal with
for the rest of your life. I would advise
you not to abort, because that lil life in
your belly didnt ask to be brought into
that situation and it mos definitely is
not asking to die. Right now you need to
be closest to those who love and care for
you most. And yes you are a good person,
you just didnt make a good decision. As
for him, trying to make life miserable for
you. He might just try to do that and
could possibly have the means since you
say that he's a wealthy attorney. YOu
being pregnant has put a dent in his
so-called "perfect" life that he forgot to
tell you about. So you might seek out
legal counsel or put 911 on your speed
dial. Not trying to scare you, just being
real. You're still young, as a matter of
fact, the same age, So just move on and
find somebody who really cares about you,
loves you and wants to create a life with
you. I really hope that everything works
out for you.
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kissofangel20
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 May 2006 Posts: 248 Location: ,
Sorry Posted: 05-14-08 20:23pm
Do not have an abortion just because he
tells you too.....being a lawyer yes he
can make it difficult on you leagally.
But you have to do what it is in your
heart to do. He can not take this baby
unless he can prove that you are an unfit
mother which I highly doubt is true. If I
were you I would take my child and
RUN!!!!! Far far away. Then decide what
you want to do. You don't need him giving
you trouble or pushing his choices on you
at this time or any time. I really wish
you the very best of luck! If You want to
talk any more just send me a mesg!
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harmony1
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Joined: 18 May 2008 Posts: 390 Location: , Australia
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Posted: 05-28-08 08:03am
Hey there,
At the end of the day it's your choice as
to what you want to do. I'm sure you'll
figure it out. Just look deep inside your
heart and find the answer that suits you.
