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Q: pregnant and father needs proof hes the dad!!!

asked by: complicated1990 on September 7th, 2008

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My name is alexandra and im 7 months pregnant with a baby girl. The story with the father is a very complicated story. I met him when I was 15 years old and I'm 17 now (turn 18 in Dec), and he is now 24. We broke up at the end of March of this year and started to see each other again in May. I found out I was pregnant when I was already 14 weeks, when I broke the news to him he denied it to the fullest. He denied it because of the one month we were apart. Now he tells me he needs a dna test done so he could be sure that it is his child . I felt so horrible when he told me that after being with each other for so long. Now we hardly speak to each other and I'm going through this pregnancy alone.

Replies(8)

yogahoneybunny

replied on September 9th, 2008

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A DNA test is the one way to secure evidence of paternity. If he's willing to offer a sample, I'd suggest that you request information about how you can get the test from your OB GYN or general physician.

GarayC

replied on September 12th, 2008

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That man is not worth it... Just think about you and your baby!!! Forget him 4 now he will notice after what he did and ask 4 forgiveness... Just think about the baby thats all

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christa964

replied on November 4th, 2008

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I agree, just think about the baby. If you are unable to provide for the baby, please consider adoption. It is a responsible choice, putting the needs of a child above your own.
Best of luck to you.

Marianne0558

replied on November 4th, 2008

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Don't feel so bad about him wanting a paternity test if there is no doubt he is the father.
If there is a chance it is someone else's, come clean.

Go through with the test, it will ensure his financial responsibility to your daughter. He needs to be a man and help raise his child.

My hubby's mom wanted him to get a test too but she ate her words when our daughter was born.

AyaMiyaki

replied on November 4th, 2008

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christa964 wrote:

I agree, just think about the baby. If you are unable to provide for the baby, please consider adoption. It is a responsible choice, putting the needs of a child above your own.
Best of luck to you.

Is there a reason why you're mentioning adoption in every single post you answer? This poster didn't say anything about wanting to give her child up. She was asking about a paternity test.

GarayC

replied on November 5th, 2008

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Dont give no paternity test unless you were with someone else besides him and you have the doubts not him!!!!! If you werent then don't worry about him worry about your baby. If he cares about you he will realize what he has

AyaMiyaki

replied on November 5th, 2008

Especially eHealthy

I think if he wants a paternity test, you should let him take one. Make him pay for it, but be willing to have your child tested. He deserves to know for sure that he's the father. If you two were apart for a while, it's not surprising that he has doubts. He's allowed to have doubts. It's admirable that he's even asking for a test instead of just saying "It's not mine" and running for the hills like some men would do.

kyrafaith

replied on November 5th, 2008

Supporter

hun dont worry youll be fine without him. If he cant man up and be responsible for his child you and the baby dont need him in your life. Let him persue the pregnancy test if he wants to because then you can get child support. I hope things go good for you and the baby and there is help out there. I have a baby on the way too and im also 18 and the babys dad pulled the same crap on me. I met a guy that loves me and my baby and there are so many guys out there that will be willing to love you and your baby. Congrats and good luck! Im around a lot so message me if you ever need anything.

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