im 18, pregnant and have a 6 month old son. I am going to school and doing it all on my own, so if i can do it, you can too.
Good Luck.

I am 5 weeks pregnant with my ex's baby. We were best friends before we were together, and are still friends now. We see each other almost every day. I really don't even know why we are not together. He gets everything a "boyfriend" would get from me, but refuses to commit to me. He also wants to be free to do whatever he wants. When I told him he said he "doesn't want to deal with it", and now he isn't there at all for me. He has been avoiding me the past few days. I am trying to decide if I should keep it. I want nothing more than to have and raise a child, but I don't want to be a single mom, and I don't think I can do it alone. What is worse, is my best friend is pregnant as well, though she is happily married and the baby was planned. Her due date is 2 days after mine. I'm scared and don't know what to do. I love my ex so much still, and am having a hard time dealing with the fact that he would reject this. I am so sad...

I've been with my high school sweetheart for 15 years. I am now 33. We split 2 years ago but have not ever really moved on. For the past year and a half he has been keeping me at arms length, telling me he doesn't want to get hurt again but he still loves me, called EVERY DAY, morning noon and night, told me he wanted me to be the mother of this children for all of these years. A month ago I found out he has been with another woman the entire time. He was lying to her too. He had her convinced I was crazy and wouldn't leave HIM alone. He was trying to play the concerned ex boyfriend, making her feel sorry for me because he wouldn't let me have any friends during our relationship. Anyway, I found out about the relationship 4 days after I found out I was pregnant with his child. He has rejected me and the baby and gone after her. Sending her flowers at work, the whole nine yards. I don't know where to go or what to do. I, too want to be a mother but not a single one...I am terribly sad.

why is being a single mom such a bad thing!
i raised my son by myself. i went from sleeping on my mom's couch to, getting a studio, a one bedroom apartment, a two bedroom , to buying a duplex & having a tenant to pay my mortgage.i also decided to go to college. i struggled working and needing child care b/c my family wasn't helpful. this experience gave me a strong personality that "i don't need a man"!
these guys all of you are talking about is young and immature, they don't want to commit, or play house.
trust me i was single when my son was 1yr-5yrs. old. and i didn't have to worry about a guy playing games with me, hurting me, stressing me out...etc. i had peace.

penut1234
if you want to be a mother then i suggest you have your baby. don't allow your decision to be based on whether your baby's dad is acting funny. your best friend is married and having a baby (w/ a 50% chance of a divorce rate). God forbids this, but what if 2 years from now she's getting a divorce and your getting married.
life is all about dealing with the cards that your dealt with.
when you do meet that special someone, your ex might be hurt thinking of another man raising his child & he cant do anything about it.
my son's father played games with me when i was pregnant until my baby was 6mos. so i left him, & when he was ready i was already over him, and he was a horrible dad.

kmandyk1
You can do it! if you been with him that long he probably have strong feelings for you. he probably didn't want you to know about the other chick b/c it would hurt you. i find some guys are sometimes confused until they are forced to make a decision. trust me if it would be up to him he's going to be back and forth with you both. please don't allow him to do this.
he might cause bad feelings with the other women. he was playing games with her and now another women(you) is having his baby. that alone is a strain on a relationship. he might stay away for this reason. but if he gets his child, the other women may be hurt and jealous just by looking at the child.