pregnant and confused

My heart goes out to you right now- I know it must be hard to be facing a pregnancy that you hadn't planned on at this point in your life, and even harder to have your boyfriend react the way he has. I can tell that you're really struggling with the idea of having an abortion and that you might not be considering it if you didn't feel pressure from him and your friends. In the midst of all the emotions, just try to remember that you are the one who will have to live with your decision. I would encourage you to try to get in touch with a local Pregnancy Resource Center - they'll have counselors who can help you. Another source of support is Focus on the Family - I work with this organization and wanted to let you know that you can speak with one of their counselors for free by calling 855-771-HELP (4357). There's a page (http://bit.ly/Mty54K) on their website that has some helpful links too - I know that none of this is easy, but I hope you feel that you're not alone. Praying for you…

If I were pregnant, I would want SO bad to get an abortion, but I wouldn't. I don't believe that an abortion (when very early in pregnancy) is murder, especially when it doesn't even have the ability to THINK. I wish abortion would be more socially acceptable; I don't think it's that big of a deal really early in pregnancy. But still, keep the baby. You won't regret it when it's born.

Weeyin,

Only you can make this very difficult decision. You need to remove everyone else's opinion and search within yourself to see what is best for You. If you decide you want to keep the child the father may say he wants nothing to do with it and very well might not, but the courts can assist in making him at least step up financially. I don't know what type of support system you have with family and friends, but if you decided to have the baby and you have folks in your life it makes it easier. On the other hand if you decide not to keep the child, again it has to be your decision. Not the fathers'. It is not his body and he has made it clear that he has no intention of it being "his future". You have to ask yourself do you want children? Are you mentally prepared to completely alter your life for this little being? Alter does not mean negative, it means different. I am not sure how old you are and that too would play a factor in your decision. Ask yourself the hard questions and in the end, you will make the best decision for YOU. Good luck sweety.