I know the sticky says not to post before you test, but Im planning on testing tomorrow because I finally hit a point at which I am very very scared.
I feel like a total idiot because I havent been as responsible as I should. I would appreciate it if the replies didnt make me feel worse. So here's my story...
Ive been on birth control and Im usually really good about doing it 100% right. Plus, my boyfriend and I used condoms. Except, we would forget the condom occassionally or not have to opportunity to get one, so we would just rely on my b.c. I guess that was a bad habit, because we jst got used to doing that. And then when I missed a pill... we thought one was no big deal. And I got my period, so I thought nothing of it. But our habits have gotten worse and worse and recently we've had a lot of unprotected sex.
The thing is, Im not even sure when my last period was. I think maybe six or seven weeks ago. But, I cant just rely on that, because whenever I miss a few pills I get irregular, and I missed at least four since my last period. And then my mother was getting worried because she actually pays for my birth control and she thought it was time to refill. So I did refill, and started my new month. So I have no idea if I should have had my period yet or not.
The only other sign I have is weight gain, about six pounds in about a month and a half or so. But I dont know if that is even supposed to be happening yet. I also get headaches a lot, but that is normal for me and there hasnt exactly been a notable change.
Also, Im pretty sure I have PCOS because my mother does and I have all the signs. My mom hasnt let me go to a gynecologist yet because I was already on birth control for irregular periods and acne and she (being a nurse and a patient) knows that the gynecologist coudnt do any more than what is already being done.
Im very scared, but Im not sure what to think. Id like advice and support, if you are willing to offer it. I am seventeen and my boyfriend and I have been planning marriage for several months, but a pregnancy is not what we need right now. I know. It happened to my mom. Please do not criticize me any further. I am already doing that myself.
I'd like to note that this has six views and no replies.
I'm doing this because I need someone to talk to. I'm talking to my boyfriend but we are both scared. Reading these posts has calmed me, just knowing that I'm not alone.
I would really appreciate a reply tho.
Not everyone has something to offer the topic. They read because of the title but may have nothing to contribute. So don't sweat the views.
The best thing to do is test THEN worry. You can get cheap tests at Walmart or the dollar store - if cost is an issue. They also give free testing at Planned Parenthood. You can also get free or very low cost birth control pills there as well as counseling on what your options are in the event of pregnancy.
Thank you for responding. I was planning on getting a test after work tomorrow. And in this little hicktown, we dont even have a Planned Parenthood. My mom had me put on birth control when I was fourteen because of my irregular periods. Im just so scared because I was irresponsible. We've already vowed to be more responsible in the future if this is just a scare.
I know Im being silly, but it really feels a lot better knowing that someone is out there listening.
You'll have to take the test in the morning, with your first morning urine. You could buy a 2 pack test and take one right away then save the second one for the morning. Tests work better with a concentration of HCG (pregnancy hormone) and that concentration is highest in the morning with a full/er bladder.
Good luck. This is an eye opener to be more careful, huh?
I guess I'll do the 2 pack thing, because I dont think I can wait much longer.
I just realized today that I had gained so much weight recently, and I had been overlooking the periods because of my crazy pill schedule.
One that note, I can tend to fluctuate with my weight sometimes, and I had only recently lost weight and gotten down to 117. Then today my mother pointed out a "new roll" so I weighed again and was up six pounds. Which is a lot on a small person. I havent weighed in over a month so the gain could be gradual. Im just wondering if that is relevant at all. Does a gain like that have any indication of pregnancy?
Not in early pregnancy. The first real sign is a missed period. The second sign and everyone will tell you this, their boobs hurt so bad they could hardly breathe on them or have anyone look at them without fear of PAIN.
See, I dont have that at all. I dont have any abnormal tenderness. I've been feeling because I've been researching all night and every website says that my boobs would hurt and they arent any more tender than they are normally.
Which is encouraging after all that I have read.
Any other readers feel free to respond. Ingi here is helping me a LOT tho. Thank you tons.
Have you tested? What are the results? Good luck! Maybe after this scare you should consider a different form of birth control like the shot. That is only taken once every 3 months and you won't have to remember to take it every day like the pill.
I just went through a freak out myself, and I'm only 18! My forum is called "five days late!" and I am happy to say the freak out is overrrrrr (negative!!) and I know EXACTLY what you're going through.
Hopefully this is a huge wake up to you guys... but no freaking out yet. You need to test. As soon as I tested I was SO RELIEVED! I don't know why I didn't do it sooner! Scared, I guess. Just do it. It's great that you have a supportive boyfriend and mother You don't sound pregnant though, with just a missed period. And if you started a new pack before your should have or something all of this missed pill/different schedule business could have messed up your cycle. Like I said, don't freak out yet, just grab the two pack test for 8 bucks, and your answer will be clear! They're more than 99% accurate if you take them after you should hvae had your period (and in your case it sounds like you should have had it in a short enough time ago that you'd remember).
Thank you guys for all the support. Its VERY helpful.
And I am HAPPY TO SAY that I tested last night and FIRST THING this morning and both tests came to rest with a beautiful negative sign. Ive never been so happy to fail a test.
I was really freaking out, but I guess the main scare is over now. We'll just be more careful in the future. WAY more careful. My poor boyfriend was just as scared as I am. His mother didnt know that we were having sex, and he knew it would hurt her to find out this way. My mother got pregnant with me in high school and she's told me sooo many times to be careful. I know that's not a road she would ever choose for me, so I was pretty scared of facing her disappointment.
Now I hope I won't ever have to worry about it again!