My girlfriend and i had sex jan 18, she found out that she was pregnant feb 13. She said that the last day of her last period was jan 4, so that would make her first day around dec 30 right? i guess my real question is, is that if doctors go by the first day of the womans last period, would this baby be mine? she is 24 weeks now but by my count, we had sex 21 weeks ago. please help
Well, if her last period was January 4th, then she wouldve more than likely been ovulating on January 18th, so you could be the father. Because IF she had a period on Jan 4th, then the next one was missed, she couldve found out she was pregnant any time after February 4th, because that is when she shouldve gotten her next period. Was she with someone else around that time too or something? Is that why you wonder?
Oh, I see what you mean. you think that she got pregnant before she slept with you. Im not really sure, because I didnt realize that you said she STARTED on the 30th. Well, in that case she wouldnt have been ovulating on the 18th. It wouldve been on the 13th or 14th more than likely. Are you sure that you didnt have sex before the 18th? Did you ejaculate inside of her?
mariee2009----im am positive that we had sex on the 18 of jan and yes i did. the thing that makes it hard, is that she would invite me to go with her to get an ultrasound and when i told her sure, ive got questions to ask the doctor, she quickly revoked the invite. we actually broke up in march when i confronted her about her being pregnant longer than she should be and we havent talked since.
thats a very very obvious thing right there. She seems like shes trying to hide all possible ways for you to find out its not yours. Im not sure about her, but If I knew you were the father of my baby, I would not be dumping you. I would request a DNA test, but the thing is, im not sure if YOU have to pay for it. I would look into it. But according to what I know, seems like she wouldve been ovulating before you two had sex. Which would lead to only one thing!! cheating. but DNA test really is the only way to prove... orrr, call the doctor she goes to, and ask him which day he estimated to be her conception date. If it was the 18th, then you are ok, but if it was before, Im not so sure who the father is. Good Luck buddy.
First of all you cannot breech the HIPPA laws by calling her obstetrician for information. Second, she would be 25 weeks by conceiving on January 18. My guess attacking her with questioning paternity after she invited you to go to the ultrasound, was a slap in her face. I would say forget too. Most women trying to pull a fast one DOES NOT invite the man to an ultrasound. Hence, you say can see with your own eyes. Instead of having tension between the two of of you why don't you support her throughout the pregnancy and if you still have questions?......Deal with it then.
breck08--there was no "attacking" her. she asked if i wanted to go to the ultrasound, i said yes i would i have questions to ask the doctor. because any educated man would have questions about a baby. she demanded to know what questions i had and i said normal baby questions. thats when the invite was taken away. thats when i had doubts about if the baby was mine. theres no law saying that i have to support her in this. if she doesnt want me to be around during the pregnancy then i dont have to be. "if" the baby is mine thats when i will be involved.
Just curious why when asked what questions you had, you not say? According to the information you gave it was my opinion that she is carrying your child. However you choose to handle it as an educated man is up to you.
What questions would a new father have? I would think those be be obvious. How the baby was doing when would we be able to learn the sex and all that. This is her second child and you would think that she would know that I would have questions just like she did with her first kid.