pre-mature ejaculating question

Premature ejaculation means that one cannot control how quickly they reach orgasm. I've never experienced it myself (thick foreskin) but to answer your question, a man should be able to last nearly as long as he wants normally. If I want to reach orgasm quickly, it can be done very quickly. For your partner's sake however, it's usually better to last a bit longer. But yeah, slowing down is a large part of it.

If you are just going and only thinking about your own pleasure, going as fast as you want, it isn't going to last long. BUt if you are able to slow down, focus on her, and last longer, then it's not PE. As far as I know.

Some guys aren't able to do this- as soon as it's in, they're done (or sometimes even before). That's PE.

Thanks for the answers, but that doesn't exactly answer my question in a way. Let me put like that, if the girl gets on the top while having sex and she was "riding" the guy fast and wasn't stopping and the guy felt real good. In that case will it be up to the guy to have pre-mature ejaculating? since he can't really stop and slow down, so if that's the case will he last about 1-2 minutes which would make it pre-mature ejaculating? or would he last about 5-10 minutes?

I hope that explains it a little better.

Well, there's not really a clear cut formula for knowing when it's PE. You know? Some guys really have to try hard to hold back- "thinking about baseball", (my husband says he does math) redirecting your attention somehow, or even changing positions if need be. So here's what matters: are you able to control it, and how often does it happen?

If you aren't able to employ techniques to slow yourself down, and ALWAYS come within 1-2 minutes regardless of what you try do to stop it, it could be PE.

So, I guess, if you're in a position that feels really good, not doing anything to stop, lasting 1-2 minutes would be perfectly normal. But that shouldn't happen all the time, in general, guys should be able to do things that control the orgasm. If this happened once or twice, it wouldn't really be a big deal. But if it happened consistently, and you weren't able to do things to make it better, then it would be PE.


(on a less related note, sometimes my husband will whisper in my ear "you're gonna make me come too fast" and not only does it make me know I have to change positions, but it's REALLY hot....)


Does that answer it any better?

If you can't control when you cum, its PE. Technically its cumming before you want to. So if you came after 10 minutes but didn't want to you could consider it PE. I think the traditional explaination is losing control very early.

It's a bit subjective, too. Depends on how satisfied you are with your sex life.

No, because if you're masturbating and that's all you're trying to do, some guys can do that.

But if you cum in 5 seconds and can't really have successful sex because of it, that would be PE.

Thank you very much. You answered my question. First I used to think that Pre-mature ejaculating is something that happens to people who can't really help it, I used to think the guy had no control over it. Like when I masturbate I can go for a long time, but when I just go for it non-stop I last about a minute or a minute and a half, I thought that I had pre-mature ejaculating because it takes only a minute for me to cum if i go non-stop. But according to what you guys are saying, this is normal for every guy and its up to him to control it by stopping or doing whatever.

I've had this question for a long time, but I never got the perfect answer for it. Thanks again especially you Georgia, now I feel much more comfortable.

I'm glad to help!