I'm a 27 year old engineer. I'm usually very quiet and reserved, hence my decision to abstain until marriage.
I come from a strong family and i do not wish them to be disgraced, harmed or embarssed in any way.
I have read numerous forum threads regarding this, but this forum seems to be the most competent, so I'll ask away.
I know you guys and gals must get this a lot, so here goes:
I've been seeing this girl. Nice girl. Good family background, also waiting to abstain until marriage. 2 weeks ago, we were watching a movie at her apartment, and we started kissing. Our kissing got a little out of hand, and as you can imagine, passion was flying. I did touch my genitals, but didn't seem to note any pre - ejaculate (as you might say... PRE CUM). I then proceeded to rub her vagina (as, well, her hymen was still intact, and she wanted to keep it that way). We kinda stopped after a few minutes and we both felt very guilty about it. I didn't ejaculate, neither did she orgasm, although i noted a few secretions on my fingers after we stopped. A few hours later, after i had left her apartment, she told me that she had gotten her period and was wondering why she didn't have any PMS signs.
If you must ask, no I didn't masterbate for several weeks prior to that event (a guy's busy... can't exactly do things like that as much as high school, hehe).
Can anyone please tell me if she is at risk for pregnancy or is going to be pregnant, assuming i got a small amount of pre-ejaculate on my fingers?
Thank you for taking the time to read this thread...I anxiously wait for your expert opinions.
It does not sound like you did anything that can get her pregnant. Pre-ejaculate does not come from the same place as semen/sperm. It does however share the urethra with sperm and urine. Its unction is to clean the urethra from impurities before any sperm is even released. As you did not masturbate recently, no sperm should have been present.
You also need to get a substantial amount of fresh semen deep into her vagina to get her pregnant.
You two will however have to do something to burn of some of the sexual tension between you. If you do not do that, you will end up having sex when you do not want to, or even worse, not being prepared for it. As you found out, once you get going, your brains are no longer in control of the situation.
It is virtually impossible to impregnate soeone, outside of a lab setting, without genital to genital contact. Also menstruation, in almost every case, means not pregnant. The circumstances required for a woman to shed her uterine lining and remain fertilized are incredible.
There is however something that should concern you still about this. Your fingers should be completely clean any time you insert them into your partner or even yourself. Your hands are a breeding ground for bacteria and fungal particles. If they were possibly dirty with pre-ejaculate they almost certainly had food particles, dust or even fecal particles on them. Any time you're touching your girlfriend down there you should first wash your hands with an antibacterial soap, use a cleansing gel or at least thouroghly clean your hands with a clean damp washcloth to reduce health complications for the person you love. I realize you hadn't planned on things going as they did but it costs you nothing to tell her you want to wash your hands before touching her down there.
I had the same problem although i did ejaculate about half an hour earlier, after this straight away i wiped all the semen off my hands and i''m sure none of it went on my fingers i anti spetic wiped my hands and fingers. Later i fingered her deeply, could she possibly be pregnant? Thanks
Susan are you definetly sure, as my girlfriend is now starting to feel ill, she's due on her period on sunday the 23rd but it would be great if anyone could tell me definetly if she is pregnant or not , thanks, Alfiee99
Hello, im in a very uncomfortable situation. ... Me and my gf were messing around a day after her period, we didnt have sex but our clothes were off and rubbing each other. My penis never made direct contact with her vagina but was close, and when i checked my self i had a little pre-cum, cleaned it up, as well as my fingers, and started to touch her vagina again. I notice that she had an orgasm. Thats why i worry about pre-cum having to find a way inside her vagina. She is still a virgin. This happened the 31, yesterday it was the 6th and she had nauseas and threw up. Is there a chance she could be pregnant? Or could it be eating disorder, bad food or something else?
HELP!!! REPLY ASAP! PLEASE!