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Q: Possibly Pedophile Boyfriend

asked by: easy2bme on February 5th, 2009

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I met a guy online just under a year ago, and I moved in with him. We met on a forums, and going back to the forum and researching everything everyone said about him he was probably 17 or 18 at the time but still, he was hitting on 13 year olds. People were callin him "pedo"
I DID NOT KNOW THIS AT THE TIME WHEN I MET HIM.
I don't know whether this is just an inside joke at the forum or what, it's really disturbed me. When I confronted him about it, he says he likes to mess with people in the forum, that he never took anyone seriously bsides me.
ALSO, he frequents a website called 4chan in which ppl can post pictures etc anonymously, which I do not approve of either. I once checked it out to see what all the fuss was about and scrolled down only to see a large picture of a 6 or 7 year old being molested by a 40 something man. That website is disgusting, and I do not know what his fascinated with it is. I closed it immediately, and when I confronted him about that, he said that the moderators will delete the post if it is child porn. Still, i was a little freaked out that he frequents that site.
NOW, I have been pondering this forever, he is a very normal guy with no sexual molestation past.
I went to my moms to visit her and got on the AIM and created a new screen name to and added him. He immediately started to talk to me and that was weird. I posed as a 12yr old (im not), i'm 23, and he asked me if I was a virgin. I said yes. He really didn't say anything sexually charged so I tried to initiate a cyber chat with him. He told me he didn't cyber, BBUT THEN, when I asked why, He said that 12 was TOO OLD for him. He has a very dirty and interesting sense of humor, and I shrugged it off, thinking it was his weird sense of humor. plus I want to know why he straight out asked a 12 year old if he is a virgin.
AM I OVER THINKING THIS OR SHOULD I BE REALLY CONCERNED???
sorry if this is hard to read i'm all flustered from what I read about him on that forum, and really everything else.
I'm seriously thinking of searching MY computer further to dig up more dirt.
am i over-reacting or should I be freaked out by this stuff
it's because of this caca i hate the internet

Replies(10)

easy2bme

replied on February 5th, 2009

New User

please help!!!!

J3nnyuk

replied on February 5th, 2009

Moderator

Hey hun well am sorry but from what you have told us this sounds like you have a problem because even if he not a pedo what right minded guy would joke about something like that?
I think you should monitor what he is going on for now because it seems like you tried to confront him and he just laughed it off.....So0 keep an eye out and if it does turn out to be a joke then i also suggest you ask him why he finds that kind of thing amusing!
Jenny

zigemyster

replied on February 5th, 2009

Supporter

easy2bme,

It seems like you are trying to justify his actions and are somewhat relieved when he tells you what you want to hear.

His actions are not waving a little red flag...there are many red flags and they are huge...

Biggest one of all: you pose as a 12 year old and the the first thing he asks, are you a virgin? Then he proceeds to say that you are too young! Brings me back to one of the first things that you said about a site in which you saw a 6 or 7 year old being abused by a 40 something y/o and he made another excuse. Did he even seem concerned that a child was being harmed?

Personally I would leave him and report him to the authorities and by all means I would not tell him that you were the 12 y/o...

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easy2bme

replied on February 5th, 2009

New User

I'm not going to justify his actions.. I am really really concerned about this.

I'm not sure what went on with people calling him a "pedo" on the forum...thats what has bothered me the most. All I know was that the date was 2005 and he would have only been 17 then. But still, he was trying to initiate sexual chats with a 13 year old.

As for the chat, I HAVE NO IDEA WHY HE ASKED IF I WAS A VIRGIN, omg that freaked me out.

As for the child porn on 4chan, he didn't actually see it I did. But thats not to say that he hasn't seen it before, and I would rather have a boyfriend who isn't interested in that stupid forum. That website is popular because there are no rules, with the exception of no child porn, and you can post anonymously. But still, that website creeps me out and the people on there are very strange.
When I mentioned it to him he had a look of concern on his face then said what I said above.
I'm going to talk to him about this and if he doesn't come clean I'm going to leave him.
It's going to be hard because I'm head over heels in love with him
this has broken my heart.
i'm in denial

easy2bme

replied on February 5th, 2009

New User

and i just wanted to add that he doesn't really spend that much time on the internet,
he watches a lot of movies and spends most of his time with me. most of all, i trusted him, until I got bored one day and looked at that forum. I went back in his posting archives and was and went through and searched his username and the forum and got the results and thats how I found how ppl were talking about him calling him a pedophile. which led me to initiate that chat with him that time.
i trusted him enough to not be jealous of him because he is head over heels in love with me too and I can't just leave him for something that ive suspect on the internet.
i'm just wanting to clarify somethings before everyone goes "call the cops on this guy" etc.

J3nnyuk

replied on February 7th, 2009

Moderator

Well my opinion is that it is pretty serious already because of the fact what he said to you when you was the 12 year old! that is weird......I am not saying that he is a pedo but there is cause concern....in my eyes...People must be calling him that for a reason maybe he doesn't realize what he is doing is making ppl concerned you need to talk to him or at least keep an eye on the chat history....Jenny

Blue_Moon

replied on March 8th, 2009

New User

I'm a pedo, but I've never acted on it and I never will. That's the important thing.
I hate myself for it and wish I could change but I can't. It's a terrible thing I've gotta carry by myself for the rest of my life. If anyone found out it would destroy my whole life. Its just a disgusting sexual orientation.

Maybe he feels this way- he can't seriously expect to chat to a 7/8 year old on the internet, and if he did then he wouldn't go about it by asking if she's a virgin straight off like that.

He's almost definitely role-playing with adults who are pretending to be kids, and he knows it. There's a lot of people who do this.

As far as i know 4chan is a big pedo site (or is that 12chan???), anyway he obviously has abnormal interests. You need to confront him. But before you do that you have to confront yourself- can you have a relationship with a freak who gets turned on by kids?

If the answer is 'no' then the relationship is over- cause in my mind there's no doubt that's what he is. Sorry Sad

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Peace and Love,

Blue-Moon

Fairy Godmother

replied on March 22nd, 2009

Supporter

There is something seriously WRONG with an adult who fantasizes about a child. SICK SICK SICK. Same goes for those turned on by animals.....Its morally WRONG. This is WHY there laws in society that protect our children and our pets.....easy2bme, do your homework, do the math......RUN RUN RUN and don't look back.............

Rosie H

replied on March 30th, 2009

Extremely eHealthy

yes this is just wrong. he is a pedo and yes I would run as far away as you can. be careful. The reason they called him a pedo is because he was probably hitting on 12yr olds and looking at lil boys getting molested. A normal man would not ever do this, and 12 yrs old is too old!! ANd is she a virgin!! That just makes me so sick. I was molested by a grown man that was supposed to care for me and protect me,,,no one suspected him either. Just be careful. This is not normal behavior and I would be very very careful aroung any children or preteens you have in your life...oh and most pedo's think puberty is too old cause the child no longer looks and feels like a child. They cannot get off on possible pubic hair, periods and breast....makes me feel bad posting this.

Im sorry you have to go through this though i cant imagine how hard it must be just be careful

AuntieN

replied on July 28th, 2009

New User

Online? bad news. He sounds like a Cyberpath (do some searches on that word)

I'd get away from him ASAP.

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