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Porn/Masturbation Addiction

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I moved in with my boyfriend almost 6 months ago. We have been together for 3 years and had dated long distance for the first 2 1/2 years of our relationship. I sort of thought that since we were long distance for so long, that when we were finally together we would FINALLY be able to take advantage of being around one another. We do have sex, maybe once or twice a week but never more than that. During our first month of living together i came home one night and found a used condom in the trash (that he ejaculated into). At this point we hadn't really been having sex too often. I confronted him about it, and he admitted to masturbating with the condom and explained that he "sometimes doesn't like the intimacy and would rather ****." I understand that we aren't around one another all the time and that masturbation is completely normal/natural, but it just hurt me to think that he would rather **** into a condom. Any time that i am the one to try to initiate anything physical, i get rejected. Its really one of the worst feelings in the world, to know that your partner is more interested in a fantasy and has no problem with pushing you aside. More consistently, he will rush into the bathroom and lock himself in there for 30-40 minutes and expect me to believe that he really is just using the bathroom. I even went as far as looking through his phone to see his internet history, which confirmed exactly what i already knew. I really hated doing that by the way...i'm not one to snoop, but in this case i really just needed to know. On his iPad he even has a "private browser" application, which erases your internet history upon exit. But i'm still able to see that its the last application that he has used. I even looked at it this morning, after i came downstairs and he was in the bathroom doing what he does best. And of course, he had just been using the "private browser" application, which i know he uses to look at porn. At this point, i don't really know what else to do. I'm so hurt by all of this, and don't know how to bring it up to him without it becoming a huge argument. Do i let it go? Do i leave? i hate the thought of us breaking up just because he likes to ****, but at the same time it makes me feel awful about myself. And on top of that i also feel like he's sneaking behind my back to do all of this and lying to me. If he wants to **** of when i'm not here, fine by me..but to shut me out all the time is something that i can't deal with for too much longer.. Would really appreciate some input/advice on what to do...
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