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Porn makes me feel like I'm not enough for him!

Hey my BF and I have been together for 2 years and are currently living with each other. We have a very active sex life, but he is still frequently watching porn and masturbating. We have sex almost everyday if not every other day. I feel like he shouldn't have the need to get off to other girls when he says that he is completely satisfied. We could have sex at night and the second I'm not there in the A.M. he is doing it. I could understand if he wasn't getting it or if we didn't see each other often. In this situation it makes me feel like I'm not enough for him. I also feel like its a little demeaning to women. I have girls of my own and I would never want ANYONE looking at one of my girls like that. It is affecting our sex life because I don't have the desire to have sex with him when he does it. He was hiding and denying it for a while and that made my sex drive take a nose dive. I have talked to him about this many times. What should I do?
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replied April 1st, 2011
Porn is a bad modern thing and anyone in a relationship shouldn�t be looking at porn they should show the love for each other and then express their love through intimacy. It is really unconstructive in a relationship to be watching porn. Although once on it, it can be really hard to get off it. It�s an addiction like many other addictions and its quite hard to stop. What I do recommend is try talking to him about it when he is relaxed and you think he�ll have an open mind, or take a break, maybe a weekend away (without any internet access) and then a couple of days into the break talk to each other about how nice it is to have a nice time together (without any external influences) and just to be focused on each other and nothing else, and that�s how things should be the whole time etc. Hopefully this will get you�re relationship and back on track and if it does you�ll see big improvements in the bedroom too

If you do take a break make sure he isnt board because if he�s board he�ll just be thinking of porn.
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