Hey Confused, I'm not sure if this is relevant anymore, seeing the dating of the last posting, but I would offer my opinion from a guys point of view. Pornography and masturbation allow a male to feel like their having something new and exciting. It's my opinion that a male's mindset is always about the next conquest and the next adventure. Unfortunately, this behavior quickly becomes an addiction, because it is easy and readily available even for a husband with an eager spouse. It's not you at all, it's an addiction, one that allows your mate to have sex with whoever he wants any time he wants and however he wants. Like any addiction, pornography and masturbation, will not go away overnight, if ever, so be aware, and know that your man may fight and lose a battle every now and then, but if he's trying, make sure you forgive him and support him. Hope this helps.