Relationships and Marriage Forum - please help, we have a big problem in sex

hi to every body. I hope you help me. I need your advices. I don't know what I must do more.
my problem is that : several month ago, when I decided to marry with a good and lovely man, I was very depressed, we had very good times and I was going to improve, but my sex energy was very low. but I love him and every moment that he was with me is shining in my mind. suddenly with start of pragnancy my depression came back and I went to my parent's home for 1 month. when I came back to him he told me that he think that I don't love him and may be I think about anothers . now after 3 month he have no sexy feelings about me. I love him and every moment I wish he come to me but he have no sense. we don't know what to do for improve this situation. pleaaaaaaaas help us..... Sad

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friendlygoose

replied on November 3rd, 2009

New User

It seems as if your husband felt rejected by you. He may not have understood the reason you chose to go live with your parents for a month. You need to remember the golden rule in a relationship – COMMUNICATION. You need to explain to him that your depression had nothing to do with him or the way you feel about him. Focus all your attention on each other and the life you are planning to build together as a new family. Plan a special evening for him. Go on a date . Remind him why you fell in love with each other in the first place. If it is difficult to voice your feelings, write him a letter. P.S: Depression is common during pregnancy – it will pass.

mahtab2mahtab

replied on November 8th, 2009

New User

thank you friendlygoose for your attention and advice.
I did it before. I speak to him every time and told that why I must go to my parent's home and I told him that I loved him and I love him. but he said that it's an unconscious matter and if he accept my words logically but his sexy senses are not related to consciousness and it's not improve by force.
you know, if I forget my own pain of my desires to being with him and have sex with him I can not ignore his pain. I know that he is under pressure because of this. what can I do to be his sex partner again?? I love him very much and I want him to be happy and have pleasant experiences. I am waiting for your advices that I need to know each word of them to save my love.

ServiceU

replied on November 8th, 2009

Supporter

i dont know what country your from or about your culture. but it would be easy for me to seduce a boyfriend no matter how mad he is.
for example wear sexy lingerie, play soft music, make his favorite meal, treat him life he's a hero to boost his eagle. you can even do a sexy dance to get him aroused.
peak his interest, get him excited, and make him want you.
if your in love with someone his hurt will heal.
and i think it was wrong for you to leave your husband, your suppose to be with him through thick or thin- sometimes the bad times makes a stronger marriage.
when you left you denied him the right to prove how much he loves you, but taking care of you when you were sick/depressed.

tieleg

replied on November 12th, 2009

New User

Just make him want you. Stroke his groin when you in bed or sitting watching TV. Tell himthat you are missing his Kisse and caresses and that you want him so badly it hurts.

J3nnyuk

replied on November 12th, 2009

Moderator

i agree make him notice you even if he is mad if he loves you he wont be mad for long when he sees you want him....Jenny

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