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December 9th, 2009
HELP
Mmm wow i thought i was just plain weird but now that i have come across this maybe im not.. ever since i can remember (i was probably about 5) i have humped my bed, pillows and blankets etc to reach some kind of climax but iv always thought that this wasnt an orgasm because the feeling i got didnt seem as intense as what i have heard what other people described orgasms to feel like.. yeah sure the feeling good but not that great.. and once i get to this climax i dont wanna continue humping.. so what i wanna know is is this climax im feeling an orgasm or what??. i have always felt like im really strange for doing this espically cause i have been doing it since i was 5 when i wouldnt of known any better? is there something wrong with me? also i have never experienced an orgasm through sexual intercourse. im only 17 and have only ever had one sexual partner and we have been together for over a year now and he has never given me an orgasm.. i have started to think theres something wrong with me because i cant achieve an orgasm and there is defantly nothing wrong with his ablitly!! also while i hump i tend to think of things in my head that turn me on i usually feel kinda bad and gross after i do it. i havnt told my boyfriend that i hump things but after reading this i think i might. help someone please lol i need to know if i am actually orgasming when i hump :S
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replied December 9th, 2009
HELP
Mmm wow i thought i was just plain weird but now that i have come across this maybe im not.. ever since i can remember (i was probably about 5) i have humped my bed, pillows and blankets etc to reach some kind of climax but iv always thought that this wasnt an orgasm because the feeling i got didnt seem as intense as what i have heard what other people described orgasms to feel like.. yeah sure the feeling good but not that great.. and once i get to this climax i dont wanna continue humping.. so what i wanna know is is this climax im feeling an orgasm or what??. i have always felt like im really strange for doing this espically cause i have been doing it since i was 5 when i wouldnt of known any better? is there something wrong with me? also i have never experienced an orgasm through sexual intercourse. im only 17 and have only ever had one sexual partner and we have been together for over a year now and he has never given me an orgasm.. i have started to think theres something wrong with me because i cant achieve an orgasm and there is defantly nothing wrong with his ablitly!! also while i hump i tend to think of things in my head that turn me on i usually feel kinda bad and gross after i do it. i havnt told my boyfriend that i hump things but after reading this i think i might. help someone please lol i need to know if i am actually orgasming when i hump :S
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replied February 12th, 2010
adolescent tribbing
ive been a pillow humper all my life and i prefer it over any other form of stimulation. when i was a little girl (4 or 5 years old) i had a babysitter who used to hump a pillow in front of me. she used to rub on my clit, and i always thought it as normal. as i got older my best friend and i started doing it together. we started out using pillows and progressed to humping eachother. we were only 8 or 9 years old. it stopped as we reached puberty, and i havent done it since.i was always afraid that i was a lesbian, and i didnt want to be, i was always attracted to the boys. now that i am 27 years old and have been in a relationship with a man for 7 years, he or anyone else has been able to give me the orgasm that a 9 year old girl could. i find myself fantasizing about her, and ive gotten past the point of being ashamed. i have recently discovered that lots of lesbian girls do this and they call it tribbing. i am so in love with my fiance, he and i are getting married in a couple months and im afraid that i may truely be a lesbian. i dont get along with many girls and i know that i dont want a relationship with one, but i am only sexually attracted to women. i am just afraid that i will never be able to orgasm with him, and i will dream of tribbing with another woman for my entire life. i wish i could get past the emaressment to tell him or show him what i really want. any advise??
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replied February 12th, 2010
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Tribber, Tribbing is not quite the same as pillow humping. It is also known as scissoring and it is the position two women can use to rub their clitorises together so that both can orgasm. So you are quite right, it is mainly practiced in the lesbian community and the orgasms can be super intense. It however lacks intimacy as the two women have their crotches together but their heads on opposite ends.

Pillow humping can create the same sort of stimulation for you as scissoring, except that the it is with an object, not a real live wet and warm person.

Whatever you did while you were discovering your own sexuality does not make you lesbian, bisexual or heterosexual. Neither does thinking of that 9yo girl. Your sexuality is determined by what you seek out as an adult. A lot more women is bi-sexual tolerant than would admit to it. In general, researchers found that women get as aroused by other women and lesbian sex scenes than normal heterosexual sex scenes. The same is not true for the men studies. They find homosexual and nude males unattractive and unappealing, unless they are homosexual. There is numerous studies on this.

So how do you tell your man what you want and what you like? At 27 you should be coming out of the phase where you are self conscious and worried about what other people think - and that includes your partner.

So my suggestion is to say to him that you want to see how he touches himself to orgasm so thet you can learn what he likes and you will do the same for him. Men find this a HUGE HUGE HUGE turn-on, so don't worry about that. The rule is you may not touch him while he is busy and he may not touch you while you are busy. Make sure you are both relaxed and well rested.

There are many threads here on how to orgasm with your partner. It is something that is only easy in Hollywood! It is definitely not automatic or very easy. If you cannot find these threads, let me know.

Oral sex should also give you intense pleasure. If you are not having oral sex either, I think that communication might be a problem between you two. Just go "I will make sure I wash myself well tonight, I would love to try oral sex on each other tonight" And have fun, sex is supposed to be fun.

Take care!
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replied February 25th, 2010
yea ok so when im humping the pillow i do it for like an hour then like 2 days later my vagina starts to itch is it because i was humping the pillow
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replied April 13th, 2010
Reply to all,
Wow. I no longer feel like some kind of animal. I read every single post on here and am in the same boat as a lot of woman. I pillow hump constantly and have been doing it since I was in daycare :S but I cannot seem to get off any other way. When my boyfriend and I have sex sometimes and only a few times I''ve felt like I had some sort of orgasm because Im just drained after but Im still not sure. I know he''s great in bed but unless Im on my own it never feels the same. I''ve bought a toy and tried touching myself and everything else but it doesn''t work for me. What am I supposed to doo?!
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replied April 16th, 2010
Info?
Man...i thought i was weird to, but i just put my hands under me like have them together on on top of the other and pretty much hump my arms while laying face down same as with a pillow feels better with clothes on...I can get myself off like that but i dont feel like its an orgasm cause its not how people how have had orgasms explain it its a good feeling just not so intense i shake or all my muscles tense up. it feels good and i get to like a point where i just stop cause it feels so good but i have never had an orgasm just thru sex...so is it an orgasm? Should i just stimulate myself or have him do it during sex to get me there? Been having sex for 3 years just kinda makes me feel like a failure in a way!
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replied May 1st, 2010
The Big 0 the "alternative" way...
Yep. Done it this way all my life. Rolled up towel or blanket, face down - squeeze, rock and explode! I can do it in 20 seconds if I''m already turned on enough. I used to fake orgasms with all my partners before my husband because I was embarrassed of the way I climaxed. As a matter of fact, I didn''t even think I WAS having orgasms because any information on the subject insisted that "direct clitoral stimulation" was the only way! Such ignorance! It wasn''t until years later when I read what an orgasm experience feels like that I finally realized, uh, yeah... I''m definitely having orgasms. When I finally shared with my boyfriend (now husband) my "dirty secret," he was hurt that I faked orgasm and that I didn''t share with him sooner. That night I introduced him to my method as I let him watch, and it drove him wild! Now he LOVES watching me masturbate, and I can also use his thigh to climax. I have explosive orgasms, without guilt or embarrassment. I''m pissed that anyone would say this way is "dysfunctional." You can see the level of ignorance every time you see a porno - just about all of which are complete failures in incorporating true representation of the female orgasm. Bottom line: Get it any way you can ladies!!!
Feeling like you have to be ashamed of your own body and how it responds sexually is what is shameful.
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replied November 19th, 2012
Hi, ever since I can remember when ever people made out, kissed etc on tv would feel a type of heart beat In my vagina is this normal
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replied July 12th, 2010
Humping And Periods
I was wondering, does dry humping effect your period at all??? I really need to know. Does it effect anything that goes on with your period? Please help!!
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replied July 12th, 2010
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LostGirl, Now why would you think that?

The cramps you get while menstruating is your uterus contracting to get rid of the old lining. When you have an orgasm, the uterus goes through the same type of contractions, only much more pleasurable. This can make your period start a bit sooner, be a bit heavier and shorter, or it can end your period a bit sooner. It can also cause some spotting as blood can be forced out after gravity stopped it from coming out.

There is no other way that rubbing any part of your body can make your period change, and that includes rubbing your clitoris and vulva.

Pillow humping and dry humping is not quite the same thing. You have to be very careful about keeping dry humping dry.

There are many other things, physical and emotional that can cause a change in your cycles. Stressing about being pregnant for example can make your period late.

Take care and PLEASE be careful whatever you do.
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replied October 15th, 2010
I know this is an old thread but I felt the need to post anyway. I'm 21 years old and I have been pillow humping since I was in pre-school. I have only had an orgasm with my current partner and they aren't anywhere near as powerful, frequent, or enjoyable. In two years I've had about 3. I always feel guilty after sex because he'll ask if I had an orgasm and usually I lie to make him (and me) feel better. I've tried vibraters, rubbing myself on him, rubbing myself, oral sex, being on top, etc. The only thing that gets close is when he's on top and I rub myself on his pelvic bone but I usually give up after nothing comes of it.

I used to enjoy sex alot even though I rarely get off but the lying has worn down on me. It's gotten to the point where I rarely even enjoy it when I hump my pillow because I feel secretive and embarassed. I've told him I maturbate in a special way that allows me to have mutiple orgasms but I never told him how I do it. I really want my fiance to be able to feel and enjoy my powerful orgasms, what should I do?
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replied November 19th, 2012
And I thought I was weird for as long as I can remember I have felt like a heart beat in my vagina when people snogged, kissed etc on tv is this normal?
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replied October 15th, 2010
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Willow, There are two issues here:

1) You have a fiance that thinks you regularly orgasm with him while you hardly ever
2) You do not know how to orgasm consistently without humping pillows

For 1), I would suggest that you tell this guy what is going on. He is your fiance and you want to marry him. Both him and you deserve better. Honesty is the best course of action. Get him in a private non-sexual setting and tell him that you did not want to hurt his feelings and once you lied, it became impossible to tell the truth. That you are telling him now because you love him and would like to regularly have orgasms with him. That it hurts you to lie to him.

Tell him that you want him to be patient with you and help you. That you think that the way you learned to masturbate is affecting your ability to orgasm with him. That if he wants to see how you masturbate and orgasm, you will show him.

Then stop lying to him and make a concerted effort to orgasm with him.

For 2) it will take some work on your side. For more than 15 years your body got used to having an orgasm in one way only. When you use the same nerve endings over and over, your body will adjust to strengthen that neural path. In order to change this, you will have to develop other neural pathways. There are three distinct nerve groups that serve your genitals and can produce sexual stimulation and orgasms.

My suggestion will be that you lessen your pillow humping slowly while beginning to masturbate in more conventional ways, using your fingers, hands and toys. It will be frustrating and it will be slow but you have to continue until you have success. Remember that your clitoris is the center point of your sexual response, and that tensing up the muscles in your genital area is important. That is why riding a pillow is so rewarding. Your muscles are working while giving broad based stimulation to your clitoris.

If you need to, seek professional help or read one of the many excellent books on female orgasm. These books or help will also assist you with your fiance. Most women have to stimulate their clitorises during intercourse. This is because the clitoris just does not get the stimulation necessary, either because of your anatomy or the sexual position and time spent.

Brand new research have shown that the amount of time spent with him inside you is also directly proportional to your success in achieving orgasms during intercourse. So you might want to slowly begin to increase the time you spend on intercourse.

In the beginning you might also find value in 'humping' him. Straddle his thigh or behind. Get him erect, straddle him and rub your clitoris over his penis without having him enter you.

Remember to communicate with him and ask for what you want. Spend some time on oral sex where you can easily guide and help him to make you orgasm.

Remember that sex and masturbation is fun and pleasurable. There is nothing wrong with it or with enjoying it.

I hope this helps!
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replied November 19th, 2010
this happens to me too, when i hump pillows i feel so much better than having sex. Even when i having sex i can only orgasm once. i dont know why, do this happen to anyone else?
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replied December 12th, 2010
Knee humping?
Hi everyone
I'm 16 and I have started becoming sexual with my boyfriend. We haven't gone all the way yet but done pretty much done everything else, I'm really open about talking to him about what we both like and want. I have never had a proper orgasm through masturbation and I think it's due to myself only liking to hump corners of furniture as it was what I did when I was younger. I only have orgasm's while using my boyfriends knee to hump. He says as long as I feel some enjoyment he is happy.
Is knee or leg humping strange or is it just my own little fetish ?

Thank's Carolyn
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