I am wondering what kind of specific
erectile problems I am having. I am
29 years old and I have never had sex.
I remember when I was 15 and erections
were easy to achieve. At that age I
began masturbating pretty much everyday
for a long time. At around age 21 I
fell into a long depression that I am now
coming out of. During that time I did
not persue women. I had always used
masturbation to fufill my sexual needs.
Some times I would masturbate even if I
wasn't particulairly excited or
arroused... I would just do it
because it felt good. Not because I
was really horny. Eventually, i'm not
sure when... I realised that I wasn't
getting the same kind of erections
anymore. Sexual thoughts or
pornography wouldn't arrouse me. I
found I would have to touch myself to get
myself erect. I found that it was my
habit to touch myself to make myself
arroused. I really didn't realise how
bad the problem was yet tho. Now,
after many years, i've finally started to
come out of my depression and started
looking to date. I met a girl and we
were together awhile and I was affraid to
have sex with her. There were alot of
reasons why, fear of the first time, and
an inconsistent erection were a few.
When it came time for us to progress
towards sex... I couldn't do it.
I just wound up kissing her alot and
eventually she left me. Finally, I
realised that I have a problem. What
i'm wondering is if this is all purely a
mental form of ed or can there still be a
physical cause? The main thing is, I
can still achieve erections if I touch
myself... I have had morning and
nocturnal erections. Occaisonally
sexual fantasy can produce an erection as
well in me. What is strange is it
seems like one day I can and the next day
I cant even tho nothing has changed.
I have been to a uroligist and he gave me
viagra and cialis... Neither really
worked for me. I know that it seems
overwhelmingly that this is purely a
"state of mind" type of ed... But I
can't shake the feeling that there might
be some underlying physical causes as
well... Is there some sort of
condition that would cause inconsistent
erections like mine? I have dull
pains in my penis and I was also peeing
small amounts of blood... Also I have
frequent and sometimes painful urinations.
I had a cystoscopy done and that came
back favorable. The urologist didn't
seem to have a good explanation for the
blood... Only that a small amount can
be normal. I am also hypoglycemic...
If that matters... I also
recently had hernia repair surgery where
the hernia was putting pressure on my
spermatic chord. I should also mention
that I was having painful erections due to
the hernia. They seem to be gone now
other than some slight tenderness in my
right testicle. Speaking of which, my
right testicle is slightly larger than the
other... I am wondering if these
factors would contribute and I am
wondering if I should have my testosterone
levels checked because of my depression.
The main thing I want to know is.
Since I have had a few erections and
direct stimulation seems to work...
Does that totally rule out all physical
causes or can there still be something
going on? Because there is enough
medical stuff going on with me to make me
wonder.
