I'm about to turn 20, and for most of my life I've had very tight foreskin, and have not been able to retract it below the head, whether erect or flaccid. I went through what many went through--thinking my dick was normal, finding out it wasn't, getting scared/sad that it wasn't. Blah.
So I looked at forums like this, where I heard stories of both stretching and circumcision. Stretching seemed like a long shot, but I gave it a try.
You have nothing to worry about! Now, I couldn't use my fingers to stretch it, so I'd just pull my skin back while in the bath every day. I'd pull it back as far as I could, to the point where I could tell it was stretching but not hurting. It's fairly easy to tell how far you can pull it back--just don't hurt yourself. Anyway, I did this in the bath, shower, and whenever I went to the bathroom. I wasn't religious with it--I missed days here and there. But over time, it really took care of itself. And plus, every time you get it farther back, you feel really good, so it's a constant road of improvement.
Hear this: That skin is meant to stretch. It is made to stretch. You can stretch it, no matter how tight it seems now. Mine was damn tight, and now I can pull it back and keep it back even when fully erect. And it feels good.
This has increased my confidence greatly, and that confidence has manifested itself in women approaching me. I've had more girls ask for my number in the last two months than in the last 19 years of my life. Now, curing phimosis wasn't the sole reason for my confidence, but it did add a whole lot. I feel that, before, I always had the thought in my mind that my dick was messed up, and even though I didn't think about it too much, that thought guided me away from girls in general.
Anyway, the whole process, from beginning to now, lasted about six months, maybe less. I just pulled the skin back as far as I could whenever I could. The biggest leap was the first time I pulled it behind the head--I had to do that in the bath, and was very scared that it would get stuck there, as the skin was still tight. But you can pull the skin just to the widest part of the head and that will still stretch it. And once you get it past the head when flaccid, and are comfortable with that, the rest will come very quickly.
This is a pretty badly made post, but I just wanted to share. If you have phimosis, don't despair, seriously. It's entirely treatable, and you don't need anything except hands. Good luck to all of you!
All I can say is keep working it. Don't hurt yourself, but keep stretching the skin and getting it used to moving down the head. It took me a while to be comfortable with keeping the skin behind the head--it was extremely tight at first for me, as it is for you--but like the rest of the process, all it takes is time. This phase took me a little longer, but don't worry. You haven't hit a point of no return. . . . Just give it time!
Since making that original post, I'm now going out with a girl I'd consider faaaaar out of my league. That has been amazing, but has also come with its problems. I've never been particularly proud of my penis. The size, when erect, is a little above average, but when flaccid, it can be very small. That's embarrassing. I also have Forcyd's spots (spelling?), which is another common condition that can plague men's minds.
I've basically learned that we all have mad problems, and that killing yourself over them won't help at all. That's why I'm sharing my problems here, so that other guys can see that everyone has issues, and because of that, you shouldn't be as concerned about your own. We all have them.
So I'll get into my problems!
With this girl, I've been very concerned that my penis isn't good enough for her. At first, I would flinch whenever her hand went near that area...but we've slowly moved on, and now we commonly do everything but sex.
Why not sex? First time I tried, things were going well. Then came the condom part. I totally lost the moment, fell back into insecurity, and lost the boner. That's just about hell. Her immediate response was about the worst you could expect, including lines such as "I just feel so stupid. I never wanna do this again!" That was really great for me, sitting there feeling like the biggest loser in the world.
But after ten minutes or so of her flipping out, she completely turned around and treated it in the best way possible. She's been very understanding since, and that's helped.
Next time I tried to have sex, I took Viagra, just to make sure I'd keep it up under stage fright. That worked a little too well--I came from her masturbating me. Eh. That's a little better than performance anxiety.
Anyway, I just wanted to share that, just so you guys don't feel as bad about your own issues. We all have to deal with crap. It's normal.
Good luck with all your journeys! And just don't stress over it too much. Put yourself in the opposite position--if a girl you liked had a small abnormality with her vagina, or something, would you really care at all? I wouldn't, especially if it were a problem on the level of phimosis or ED. It's just so miniscule. We build it up so much because of a lack of awareness about how common this stuff is.
hello sir! you are a genius and a great post indeed. I have a few questions and wondering if you can help me:
1. when I am streching do I slip my foresking down or roll it down
2. also how did you de-sensitize your penis head - it is now very sensitive and painful to touch.
3. will I know I have frenulum breve only after pushing my foreskin past the ridge or can I know it earlier
First of all i just want to say scanuck88 what a great, helpful few posts you've made!
I'm really around half way through the stretching process.
About a year ago, my foreskin wouldn't retract at all, even when flaccid. Just as it has been mentioned, i kept gently pulling it further and further back, until i could pull the foreskin over the glans.
My situation at the moment: When my penis is flacid, i can pull my foreskin back behind the glans quite comfortably. When my penis is erect, i can pull the foreskin back to approximately 3/4 of the way from the tip to behind the glans, which is fantastic progress seeing as just a few months ago i couldn't retract it at all.
I'm going to stick with the streching and hopefully within a month or so i should be able to retract my foreskin to behind the glans when erect.
The only other thing i've noticed is that when i retract my foreskin, even when flaccid, the underside of my penis by the frenulum appears quite red, although it doesn't feel tight at all. I'm guessing that as the foreskin loosens up, then this will also help to loosen this area and reduce the redness found there.
So, basically i just wanted to share my story with you, and to give more proof that stretching does work!
To put my sexual life into context, i'm in a very happy relationship and we've been together 6 months now. We haven't really done much sexual yet, nothing that involves my penis anyway. Due to my and her age, we're not likely to be having sex for at least another 6 months, maybe a year.
Obviously i'm hoping my penis foreskin retracts fully as soon as possible, but if it's not i don't think that this will affect any sexual activity excluding sex.
I've read that for sex your foreskin needs to be able to retract fully, as if it's not then problems such as ripping etc can occur. Our relationship is starting to move into the sexual side of things, and whilst for a long time i have been extremely worried about it, i'm starting to get excited now that i understand that my problem is such a minor thing.
I think scanuck88 gave the best piece of advice, which was to put yourself in the opposite position. If i found out that my girlfriend has a minor problem that doesn't affect anything, including sexual activity in anyway (which this doesn't), would i care? Not at all.