hey diamondsz well firstly i LOVE sex i think it is a great way to show how much you are "into" your partner, i love for us to embrace each other and connect

secondly i have never been big on porn, i used to think it was weird watching other people do it but i knew my bf watched it and i didn't mind as he learnt new stuff and performed them on me
now i have took a much more laid back attitude to it and i do sometimes watch it with my bf and we get excited and end up having sex which is great!

thirdly i would never look at sex as a job because that would mean that you do not enjoy what your bf is doing for you and it would be like you were being forced into doing things you didn't want to do. I have times when my bf wants something and if I'm tired i will say no or maybe later and he respects that, all in all i think sex is gr8 couldn't imagine my life without it once in a while

How do I view sex? To me it is the most pleasurable and erotic vice on the face of the earth...What puzzles me more than anything, is that it took me so long to find this feeling of sexual freedom that I now have...When I was younger, say your age, it was great...The pleasure were wonderful, but it was the in betweens, especially after I was married, where you would loose it...My husband used to have to work to get my going, yet I would wake up during the night with his head between my legs and it was heaven...What puzzles me more than anything, is this age....Never before has this sexual act of mating been as wonderful as it is now...Now I crave it...Many years ago, like many women, I endured it....I believe this is the problem of many women....I believe that many women do not speak from their heart....Too many play let's pretend and something special dies that should not die, and instead should be nourished to make you complete...

As far as Porn....We have three unopened movie...This we purchased four years ago...Watched three and really they all say the same thing...Once you have seen one, you have seen them all....Truthfully, they are boring...No feelings, just raw sex.....

About a woman being in Porn....Once you have done this, it cannot be retrieved....It is part of your past....

One males point of view...sex is great as long as it's give and take and it doesn't become all one sided. I love to give my partner pleasure and I get off on seeing (and feeling) her get off. The sexiest part of a woman's body to me...the softness of her inner thigh. As far as the porn aspect goes...I also enjoy seeing other couples get off. Therefore I prefer 'amateur' porn not the dime a dozen produced movies, the ones where every girl is blonde, with a shaved pubic area and over blown boobs. Give me an all natural babe and I'll show you one turned on guy Inner beauty is also a big turn on. You have to believe in yourself!

Quote Sundowner "the ones where every girl is blonde, with a shaved pubic area and over blown boobs."

LOl very true! a lot of woman these days are "fake" I mean do they think men like it better with fake boobs and bleached hair..I used to have bleached blonde hair but my bf didn't like it so i went to black/brown now he loves it he says that it suits me having brown eyes!.. True some men like the fake woman but it makes you wonder why? Jenny

When I first moved to TN the first three women that I dated (and eventually became intimate with) were all bleached blonde. And I didn't like it either! Like I initially said...all natural is the only way for me. No matter the hair color, the size of the breasts (or body in general). Wow, we could probably start a whole new thread on this subject alone...Do men (and/or women) prefer their partners to be all natural or shall we say 'enhanced'? LOL

i'm a natural blonde and natural C so i guess i got lucky in that department since i dont have to fake the stuff ok ok i use a little self tanner sometimes...in the summer haha..personally I prefer all natural(how do you enhance a guy though?)..i like a little tummy on a guy, i dont need the 6 pack abs..that intimidates me haha..

and to answer the question..my view on sex is that it should be shared with someone you love..i dont separate sex and love..for me it goes hand in hand

Well said Worrywart to quote "i dont separate sex and love..for me it goes hand in hand". When I was 22 my younger brother (who was 17)told me he thought I was gay, because I wouldn't sleep with every girl I dated. In fact I had a saying "Class not ass" that I used as my comeback line whenever he got on my case about it.

its nice to know that there are some guys out there who dont take sex so lightly..many guys when they're younger are pretty much just trying to sleep with any girl they can get their hands on...quite frankly thats a huge turn off..i had a guy i dated on and off for a year as a freshman in college..i liked him alot but at the time was still a virgin..we hadn't gotten to know each other enough to be in love(though he said it a good bit) and he just didn't feel like the right guy...the fact that he was so rushed to declare his "love" for me put up a caution flag..he tried numerous times to convince me to lose it to him but a) the fact that i wasn't in love and b)the fact that he'd slept with ohhhh..3 or 4 girls THAT I KNOW OF..in the 1 1/2 months before we started talking was just a HUGE turn off...he was fun to date but the "relationship" was doomed from the beginning...anyway...its just good to know that there are still respectable guys out there

I'm a sad case. I'm 42, haven't dated in over 4 years (and so naturally I haven't been with anyone sexually). I'm not the friend with benefits type though I don't begrudge those that are. I miss having closeness and intimacy, but it seems that men only talk about and want sex. What about connecting emotionally first, huh? I think I'm on the road to becoming a spinster. I wish I could let it all go and say yes to the many offers; but my conscience and most likely traditional nature stop me.

I would strongly suggest that the next time you go out with someone that you trust and care for, that you have a few drinks during the course of the evening...Then if he tries to bed you down, have one more for the road...It is at this point where you should strongly and firmly tell your conscienece to "Get lost"..."Get your own life"...and enjoy yourself......But, honey, make sure he uses protection.....

You see, you have no idea of what you are missing....


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Caroline

I agree with Caroline...It is the greatest feeling ever!
I had a wonderful time just last night...made me feel like a goddess...
So go out hun have a good time
Jenny

LOL, Great advice girls, but finding someone I really care about and trust. HA. That's going to be hard because men don't seem to know if they really care about you as a person until they find out if you're compatible in bed first. I know Sundowner is an exception. I'm doomed.

Or am sure your not doomed there will be a man out there just waiting for you guaranteed.....

Thank you for the vote of confidence, J3. If I learned anything from this site I've learned that lots of people are having sex. LOL I'm happy for you all!

HaHa that could sound bad! It's a good job it is protected sex
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