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Q: Performance Anxiety - What can SHE do about it?

asked by: pen15624 on March 31st, 2009

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I've been with my GF for almost a year.

During the first 3/4 of the relationship we've had the most amazing sex. It was incredible and I felt like a king. Never went limp, always satisfied her, and it supplemented our relationship.

Now things have been a little rough, sex-wise.
We've been open about what we like and don't like about sex. But she's been almost too open with me, and even brings up adjustments DURING sex. I went limp immediately...
It has happened like this for the past couple months, and I'm beginning to feel horrible about myself and about my ability to satisfy her. I feel incompetent.

I can't seem to get it out of my head...

We decided to take a little break from sex and see where it goes from there.

Ive read up on other forums to help myself, but is there anything on HER part, that she could do to help me overcome this anxiety?
It's killing us... HELP!

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worrywart01

replied on March 31st, 2009

Extremely eHealthy

hmmm...i dont know that bringing it up DURING sex was a great idea...how is she talking to you about it? I have never come out and said "i hate that" or "that isn't good" to my boyfriend...thats just plain rude..but, I do hint and let him know when he does something right.."you know I REALLY love it when you _____" ...maybe she needs to work on her communication skills...communication IS what makes a great sex life, you can't read each others mind..ask her what she likes..let her take control for once, take the pressure off of you! my boyfriend LOVES it when i jump on him and initiate things and take over every once in a while

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