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Q: penis unable to fit

asked by: stevie_boy on August 30th, 2008

New User

Last night and this morning Me and my partner tried having sexual intercourse, but we just couldn't, I am 17 and she is 16 and we are both virgins so we are new to the whole experience, what happened was that I couldn't get it in, either I am too big for her or she is too small for me, we have quite a big height difference, I am 6ft tall and she is 5ft 2inches small, my penis is around 7 inches in length but I don't know the circumference, we have done all the other things, oral sex, masturbation etc, when I am masturbating her i can just about fit 2 fingers in so I never thought this problem would spring up, but she opens her legs, I would slowly try to slide it in but it can't get in, then this morning I tried lube and it still wouldn't get in, I need this problem to be fixed because she lives 4 hours drive away and I see her rarely, so we try to make the complete MOST out of the time we spend together, we were both looking forward to making love but this happened and it is a major set back.

Maybe someone can give some tips on how to fix this, or maybe just put me out of my misery and tell me we can't.

Thanks in advance for reading and the sooner I hear some suggestions the better Smile

Replies(8)

illustriously fickle

replied on September 2nd, 2008

Experienced User

Have you tried oral sex on her? This can help lubricate her vagina quite a lot, making entry a lot easier. Additionally, you might want to try place your fingers inside her vagina, first one and then two at a time. The elasticity will gradually increase...but expect the first few times to be a little tight....but never force!

bottledwater

replied on September 2nd, 2008

New User

i agree with above, with my gf i always give her oral first, then go in.

Maddie34

replied on September 2nd, 2008

Moderator

I promise your height difference doesn't matter. A woman's vagina will stretch to accommodate.

Is your girlfriend relaxed? Is she expecting pain? Are you fully erect?

Try letting her be on top for the beginning, that way she can be in charge of when and how deep you go. Giving oral or just more foreplay in general will help too.

bottledwater

replied on September 2nd, 2008

New User

though maddie is right for the on top and her being in charge, i find that it is much harder for my girlfriend to comfortably fit my penis. it might be different if you can have her stretch her legs out farther, but when we have sex her legs are up close to my body when she is on top, and she finds it much harder to insert.

we usually have sex with her on the bottom, i giver her oral(ensuring that i keep it very wet) then i slowly insert it with her hands on my waist to guide me down at her pace.

if this doesent work, continue mastubation. my gf could barely fit one finger when we started but we kept going and now she can barely feel one.

stevie_boy

replied on September 9th, 2008

New User

thanks for the suggestions guys! i hope to put them into practice A.S.A.P

When we find time and are comfortable we do take things slowly, start kissing, then eventually she or i will slide our hand down, then eventually she or i would go down on them, I did give her oral for about 10 minutes or so before trying to have sex, and believe me it was wet enough lol, she opened her legs as far as she could go but it wouldnt go in, and i kept asking her if she felt pain and she denied it, but i kept trying until i eventually started feeling pain

I was fully erect both times and she is relaxed, on friday night we did have a few drinks so that does add to the relaxation Razz

, we didnt try with her on top though, but next time i go to see her i will try to remember all of the excellent suggestions you guys gave and i'll post back whether i manage to finally lose my virginity Very Happy

petery2k562

replied on September 14th, 2008

Supporter

Hey, instead trying to put that huge pipe of yours into her, try using your finger.

Use one at first, than two, and on and on
and
sooner or later you should be able to fit.

I had exact same problem with my gf and fingering her helped alot.

Oh by the way I'm 6ft. 3 inches and my gf is 5ft. so you and I are similar in that sense. :]

Cheers,

Peter

Jazzy77

replied on September 14th, 2008

Experienced User

dang y'all...give the girl a break...literally...it's entirely possible that she needs the doctor to cut her hymen a bit to help out. if she's wet and relaxed enough, there should not be this problem. before you go trying to ram it in her or doing something else, ask her to go see her doctor just to make sure everything is ok.

make her first time good, not bad. ok? you sound like a nice enough guy...just make sure she gets checked out. this shouldn't be as hard as it seems to be.

GeeGee2

replied on September 14th, 2008

Experienced User

Stevie-
First of all I am somewhat shocked by the info you have received regarding this post. I am disappointed that NO ONE advised you or suggested to you that you should not be having sex or "having drinks" at your ages (16 & 17). I am not trying to be a parent to you, just stating a fact. I realize you are going to do what you want to do. My advice is to stop trying to have sex. If you intend to go through with it, I hope you are using 2 forms of birthcontrol!! Remember NOTHING is 100%. Better safe than sorry in protecting yourself from unwanted pregnancy or a nasty STD!
Be informed and be careful-your future and hers depends on it!

Take care!

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