Ok so i have been having this problem ever since ive been sexually active. Every time i try to have sex with a girl, i cant get it hard. I know it cant be ED because I finally lost my virginity to a certain girl, and i have no problem getting it hard around her. All she would have to do is say the word "sex" and its instantly hard as a rock. We had to try several different times because my penis just wouldnt agree with me. I'm 20 years old and ive only had sex with 2 girls. It was the same situation with the 2nd girl, we had to try so many times. Im just lucky she stuck around long enough. But its becoming a real issue, its happend with several different girls and i just give up. If my penis wouldve agreed with me with every girl, i wouldve been with 10+ girls by now. I know it sounds shallow, but i want to be able to bang a random chick, but my penis has a mind of its own.
I am currently on anti-depressants (celexa) and ive noticed that it does effect my sex drive. I can only masterbate about every other day, and it takes FOREVER for me to get off. Before i was on them it was more like 3-4 times a day and i could get off really fast. Although the pills effect my sex drive, they cant be the only cause of it because this was happening to me before i was on them. I occasionally drink and smoke weed, but like i said, this was happening way before i drank or smoked.
Its obvious that i need to warm up to the girl first and really need to know her on every level before my penis wakes up. But thats not always possible. I tried to hook up with this girl the other day and she was SOOO HOT. I mean i had her completely naked, making out, suckin on her boobs and everything. My penis just sits there...
Any advice would be greatly appreciated
Sex drive doesn't sound like the issue otherwise that initial erection would be a lot more difficult. It sounds like you're saying you get hard for foreplay but when it comes to penetration the erection is fleeting? How do you feel when you're having sex? Are you concerned about keeping your erection? Do you worry about impregnating her or have other stressful feelings? Is the rection staying firm until you put on a rubber then getting soft?
Well when its a new girl, i pretty much cant get it hard at all. I know it probably has something to do with me thinking about it too hard. Its so diffucult to not think about it when its happened so many times.
But like i said, when im with the girl that took my virginity, there is absolutely no problem getting hard. That also probably has to do with the fact that we know each other on the deepest of levels and im so comortable around her
I'd suggest seeing a Urologist or ED specialist, I'd ask specifically about excercises or treatments you can explore without medicaiton. It seems like you're just facing an obstacle in maintaining erection, not an actual anatomical problem but I think it's good to get a clinical opinion.