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peace of mind - could husband NOT be the father?

I was wondering if anyone could help. My husband I were going threw a hard time after the lost of our son to SIDS he was just short of 2 months old. Although we are still together and still having sex things were not the same. We blamed each other and our selfs to much. I found out in March we were expecting again! Smile Here lies the problem I slept with my husband unprotected of course many times in March and I slept with a good friend once March 17th PROTECTED! (and never again) Then back with my husband the next day and many days after. I figured out that I should have concieved around march 20th and Im due Dec 10 2009. My last LMP was March 5 and my cycle can be up to 30 days. Please dont judge I love my husband and children more then words can explain. I guess im just human and made a mistake. I would like anyones honest opinion' do you think that theres any chance that my husband would not be the father?
Thank you from a very worried
mother of 3
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replied June 18th, 2009
Do you remember the dates you were with your husband in and around the March 17th date?

What is your luteal phase, if you know?
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replied June 19th, 2009
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I think you are just fine...You were using protection and made a mistake...I have heard that losing a child is one of the most difficult things to deal with in the world...You each blame each other....Many marriages do not hold up during these times...Whatever the circumstances were, forget them...Find each other again and hold tight...Think of the new child that you and your husband will be welcoming into this world...Good luck and stay true to him.......

Caroline
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replied June 24th, 2009
Thank you very much for understanding our loss. Im un sure of my luteal phase. I no my cycles are usually 28 -30 days in length and my LMP was march 5th 2009. I can tell you that i was with my husband almost every night the week before then the 16 18 19 20 and so on. The only night we were apart was the night in question. We are doing well now and getting better with help. I did ask this same thing to my wid wife and she is saying that I may have already concieved a night or 2 before hand and that if we did have protected sex which we did that my husbands sperm would have been the only ones present at the time . Because ovulation isnt a sure science yet I may not have ovulated until the 20th. If you have any new thoughts in lue of the new info please feel free to answer all of your thoughts mean a lot
worried mother of 3
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replied June 24th, 2009
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You had protected sex with the other man so if you used the condom correctly and it did not tear or break, it is not his baby.

Stop worrying. It will drive you crazy!
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