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1. No window period of HIV detection with HIV 4th generation ELISA test, is at least 4 to 6 weeks. It cannot be less than 10 days.
2. Your symptoms are due to bacterial infection, and not due to HIV infection. HIV symptoms do not present within 2 weeks of exposure. Bacterial infections are associated with neutrophilia. Consult your doctor for a examination and prescription of antibiotics, to treat the infection.
3. During initial stages of any viral infection, the lymphocyte count is elevated, hence in your case lymphopenia is not a indicator of viral infection, but it is due to a differential increase in the neutrophil count.
4. The risk of transmission from Female to males is about 0.04% per act.
In case you think, you have HIV, first I would recommend you shed your inhibitions and consult a HIV counselor in person. A detailed history about your sexual partners, and other factors will help to evaluate the actual risk in your case, and this will help to decide if you need a HIV test or not. In case, this is not needed, your depression and anxiety will increase and you may end up repeating tests again and again, which might have been not needed in the first place.
In case, you do want to get tested, you can get a 4th generation ELISA test at least after 4 weeks after exposure, to get a valid and dependable result.
I hope this helps.