Hey....Well you need to apologise to her firstly....Then you need to ask her to help you a little by understanding.....but you have to stop accusing her just because of a past relationship believe me it's not good to do that because my ex bf cheated on me and when i first got with my bf now i did the same thing and nearly lost him forever!....Seriously try to stop.....and smoking pot will not help at all as it is well known to make you paranoid.....Good luck Jenny

well i did apologize and i really went deep when i did apologize and she is just done. i over and over and over again have told her how sorry i am and that it isnt her fault and on and on and shes just set on it.. i really think that its over because of this, that sucks and she wont even talk to me she acts as if i did a horrible horrible thing to her. which i know i did something that she despises and i know that i betrayed her and hurt her by saying that...i am truly a nice passionate understanding and loving guy and for this to end like this when all along i was trying to show her how much i loved her and appreciated her and cared about her and......just everything i did right, its not fair for it to end because of this, like this!!!

I'm sorry to hear it not going well..Ok why not try and write her a letter! now i know you are a guy and guys don't usually do this kind of thing but you want her back try this.......Write her a letter explaining everything even tho you have already told her your sorry etc..Try again by writing it trust me if she see's you have spent ages writing her this letter she should read it and talk to you...am not saying she will forgive you but she might think you are genuine when you say sorry...Don't give the letter directly to her post it so she will have to open it! hope this works for you keep me posted....Jenny

i've been with a guy that cussed me out every other day telling me i cheated on him. i had to reassure him that i was not. he would have sex with me and then tell me he think that i slept with someone else. this made me feel so uncomfortable when we would have sex.
i would never go through that again, and that's probably how your ex feels. it may not have anything to do with you, but the things she's been through. you have to give her space to sort out her feelings. you should try to work the friendship angle. you should send her flowers to her house (let the company send it) do things no other man has done to allow yourself to stick out in her head.
it's two sides to a story, i m sure it's more to the story. like you smoking weed, may add fuel to the fire.
my ex smoked weed, he had a thug-ish attitude, he blast that loud rap music in the car. all of this irritated me. so my question to you is what else you were doing?

Wait.hold the train....this girlfriend dropped you because, you hinted to the fact that she wqas not faithful...and you smoked a joint? Son, htere is more to the story. If she was honestly in love with you, she'd have been more understanding about the "secutiry problem" you have because of your recent history (cheats). I am also positive she is no saint....to hold smoking a joint over your head to break up. please. Now, if you constantly badgered her about her where abouts and smoked pot day after day....I might could understand, But the way you have it written, she called it quits because of two things.....I fell if you were meant to be together, things would be different and you would be with each other. You have apologized. GIve her a week. Don't badger her....If she changes her mind, good, if not.....you were looking when you found her.