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Q: partner with bipolar disorder

asked by: mamateddy on April 19th, 2008

New User

Hi there

I am really close to break down but I know I have to be very strong. I am 25, my boyfriend is 34 and got bipolar disorder. Since we live together in the last 2years he was fine but 2 weeks ago he started to say he is feeling down. I thought he maybe just sad as everybody else can be, and after he started to say that he hears different voices like the whole nation want to talk to him, and in a spiritual way he can communicate with the royal family. He really felt down every day in the last 1 week, he was crying almost every day and blaming himself for all things. He thinks he is a very bad person, which is not true, becoz he is a very nice guy.
So normally he has a melt down for 10 minutes then he is smiling for other 10 minutes then he is down again, then smiling again...
He really made me worry as he told me yesterday the voices in his head are telling him they are going to kill him and every nite he cries himself to sleep cos he is very scared. The same happened 2 years ago but his doctor gave him Olanzapin and he was sorted within a week. That time he got 20 mg/day. Now its going on more than a week, we got a new doctor who refused to give him more than 12mg/day, he behave a bit differently than before, becoz its going on more than a week, and he is still not sorted, he lost his appetite, and cant sleep and crying a lot. He is not violent but made me scared when he said his voices are telling him they are going to kill him.
Some days ago I got enough I phoned 999 and when the parademics arrived they pulled himself up and he was very fine so the doctors didnt do anything as they say: He is fine". Of course when they left the melt down again.
Guys how could I help him? What am I suppose to do when he is saying he needs to pray 5 hours/day or saying all this voices in his head are the reality?
I think I will have a nerve breakdown by he will be fine Sad

Please if you have any advice please help!
Thank you

Replies(8)

CarolDiane

replied on April 23rd, 2008

Extremely eHealthy

Sounds like he might be dealing with more then one issue here. I would try another doctor. Might need a re-evaluation and new medications. Something is not right here.

BoneyardDiva

replied on April 23rd, 2008

Experienced User

voices

My husband occasionally hears voices whispering random things to him, and he is on medication. I believe this is common with BPD & therapy will probably help him deal with the voices. There's no guarantee they'll go away w/ meds. Perhaps another doc will help...it won't hurt to get a 2nd opinion anyway...

Go2extremes

replied on April 25th, 2008

New User

Meds

What meds is your boyfriend on for the bipolar outside of the Olanzipan (do you mean klanzipan?)
Did he start any new meds at all (even non BP related) allergy meds, cold meds? That can be a trigger for his sudden break down, due to the side effects of the meds (checkall side effects of meds) Also if he is on too high of a dose of klanzipan then that can have effects such as hallucinations, hearing voices etc. I was on too high of a dose of that at one time of my life, and it was giving me nightmares and causing me to hear things that were not there... Come to find out later that I never needed the klanzipan at all, I was taking a medicine for arthritis that was giving me symptoms of BP.

illectronic

replied on May 4th, 2008

New User

I can relate

Sounds like he is in an extreme manic state. Is he taking any drugs or alcohol?

When I was manic I thought I was moses and became very religious all of a sudden. My true belief is athiesm.

kworld

replied on May 5th, 2008

New User

Bipolar Disorder

I need advice.

My friend whom I believe is Bipolar has left again. After ranting and raving for about a month or so he took off again just as he did exactly one year ago.

One year ago, this month, he became very irritable, couldn't sleep, paranoid, etc. Told me all kinds of things about the govt. I did not know what was happening because he had not shared his medical condition with me.

He was gone for about two months before he came home one day and said he needed help. I took him to the mental health clinic where he was treated and put on meds for Bipolar/Schizophrenia. After about a month or so, he was back to normal.

At exactly the same time this year, he has taken off again. Again saying I don't care about him, my kids are plotting against him, people at work hurt him, etc.

I don't know what to do. I really do care a great deal for him and I miss him. The last time he left he told me he had found a new family?? I don't know if he did or not, but he came back home. This time, he has said the same thing. He has taken his clothes, but not his other things. When I do get him to talk it is always anger. I sent him a text asking if he would like me to go to the clinic with him like I did last year, but he has not responded. He seems to have cut me off. The puzzling thing is that he always loved me and my kids. I know he did. Now, he acts if we were the enemy behind the line.

I don't know whether to keep reaching out to him or just let him go. I don't know if this is the illness talking or if he has truly had a change of heart. I know his behavior is much like that of last year; pressured speech, paranoia, can't sleep, etc. On one hand, I do not want to be a pest to some one who does not love me anymore, but one the other, I don't want to leave some one out there who I love and know needs my help.

Any advice?

NightStar

replied on August 21st, 2008

Experienced User

That is sad and scary, that he is having trouble again. Need to get him into the doctor to re-adjust his medication.

I am bipolar I, but I don't hear voices or see hallucinations. So I can't totally understand what that is like. But I think it is important to confront him that the meds need adjusted and get him back in to see the doctor. It can take time for medications to be adjusted to get them just right.

Hope he is feeling better soon.

puzzld

replied on August 24th, 2008

Supporter

is he willing to admit he has a problem? he sounds like my 40 year old brother who is bp 2, not medicated and living with our dad... he's an inventor and artist. i am bp 1 and happily medicated. my bro heard voices telling him all sorts of things ranging from he is a prophet to god telling him to kill. he's been committed before for about 6 months. hope your fella can realize he has life threatening issues and get some much needed help and relief.

all you can do for him is try to get him help. you can't force anyone to do anything though. take care and best wishes to you!

liz17

replied on June 6th, 2009

New User

bipolar partners

people with bipolar treat their nearest and dearest really bad when they are high,also they are vulnerable and easily influenced by other people my husband is terrible we would have divorced if he was a regular guy but I know it's his illness, also he feels very bad about it when he comes down from hi high

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