Well if you dont think that you would be able to handle a child on your own then I dont think its a very good idea. I personally dont believe in abortion but have you thought about adoption? Its the most selfless thing you could ever do.

i am sorry that you are in this situation, but i would like to applaude you on being wise to think over the reality of this situation you have yourself in. not many girls your age would think about how they will raise a child.
you may not want an abortion, and may not be able to afford to have this child, but have you thought of adoption?
you could set up an open adoption where you would recieve updates on how that child is doing and get to choose how involved in that child's life you would like to be.
you would be giving that child to a loving family, and giving that child the very best if that is what you decide to do.
i dont know much on adoption, but i bet if you talked with a school counsellor-assuming your still in school- or a doctor i think they could help you with the details of adoption and how to contact someone in an adoption agency.

i know this is a hard thing to go through, but i think you should think about your options. abortion may not be in the cards, but adoption could be. and i think you should talk to your parents about that too.

would adoption be something you think you could do?

thank you for your replies its very good to know that people will listen to me and try to understand that i have to think of myself.
i have thought about adoption and i know that it is the most selfless thing i could do and i love the idea of my baby have a chance at life and giving a family a child to love but i'm not sure its something i could go through with as i actually want the baby and i think the attachment i would get throughout the pregnancy would make giving it away all too hard for me to handle. i have an appointment with a termination clinic (just a consultation to have some tests and talk about my options) on Friday and my partner has agreed to go with me but i am so scared that i wont have the courage to tell anyone that i want the baby and i will end up having the abortion just to keep everyone else happy. if any one has any suggestions on how to explain to my partner and parents that i don't want to go through with an abortion i would really appreciate it.
thank you

i understand your concern to adoption i think that is a natural feeling any person expecting would feel.

but now you have to ask yourself, how are YOU going to raise this child?
you had previously said that your partner does not want you to go through with this pregnancy and he is not ready to be a father, your parents want you to have an abortion to so i dont really think there is much support from them there either, you dont have a job, money or a place of your own..so how are YOU going to provide for this child?
a child is very expensive to raise, and i think you already know that. but if you have no support or the tiniest bit of help along the way with how to care for a child, you could be lost or overwhelmed with the stress of how to raise and provide for this child. it is in no way an easy task or a cheap one.

if you are wanting to keep this child, you have to figure out a way to tell your parents and partner exactally how you are going to provide for this child financially without any money.
diapers alone cost like..20$ or 30$ for a big box
and formula is like..30 almost 40$
and those are just two essentials.
it costs an average of $40,000 to raise a child and the price goes up as that child gets older and bigger.

im not pointing these things out in a negative or tagonizing way to you, im just trying to inform you what you might and will be in for. because if your the only one wanting this child, you shouldnt burden your parents with the financial raising of this child, you are going to have to do all that. Your partner might have to pay child support, but that still only covers a small portion of all the essential things for a child.
and depending on where you live, you will have to pay for ultra sounds, doctor visits, the delivery of the child, the birthing and maternity room, along with health insurance for your child etc. etc. etc.

im 19 turning 20 next month, and i have an almost 11 month old son. it is not cheap to raise a child while your still young.

if you need to talk or have questions PM me anytime hun

your really brave..
in your position id have the baby because my materanl need is really high.
but thinking about it.. maybe abortion is the best option.. maybe chat to them about it and talk things over. xx like i said before.. your really brave hunny xx

but again lucy,
like you noted in the post "13 and want a baby"
is she financially able to have a child and raise that child like i commented on above.
its great if maternal instinct is there, but if you have no money how does your child get all their needs met and more?

flutterbies, You want the baby. Your parents and your friend want you to abort. So what now? First, let me commend you for being in your situation and turning to your parents. You do not know how many posts I have commented on that are much younger than yourself and will not tell their parents. I believe you showed character and maturity by doing so. Honesty is the best policy and you need to show that same maturity now by standing up for yourself on what you want. You cannot be forced into a procedure you do not want. If this is truly how you feel you will regret that decision for the rest of your life. There are many organizations out there for you to get help. Have you thought about an open adoption? It allows you to be involved with your child. My suggestion is to sit down with your parents and express your desires, your concerns. If your parents are not willing to help you or they are not in a position to help still let them know you want your baby and see if they would be willing to help you seek the support and provisions that are out there. Message me anytime. I will keep you in my prayers.

If you really think you can raise a baby, then you shouldn't let anyone tell you what they want you to do. Its your baby and not theres- except partly your friends.