(first of all im using my sisters name so im not the one who is dating a korean just so u know lol.)
well i been dating this one guy for almost 7 months, we are great and i couldnt be happier! he makes me feel so special. and well the problem is that my parents dont allow me to have a BF till the age of 17!!! ive hid a bf before and they never found out anything. im 15 and and i have 2 years to go but its just that i can really feel the difference in this relationship this time, we been talking alot about our future and usually i do fine not telling my parents but since im taking this relationship seriously i feel a need i have to tell them, im scared about what they'll say! one thing they cant make me do is let him go... my parents are so not understanding i need a good way to tell them he is a good guy and he respects me, my mom seems to have me all figured out and tells me that the age i have its impossible to have the feelings i do. but what i dont understand is that my mom dated my dad when she was 15 and when he was 19 and well... my bf is 15 aswell and i keep telling my mom: how was that okay? and she just tells me THAT WAS BACK THEN.... what should i do!!!??? should i tell them or just let them find out by someone else?
i wasn't allowed to actually "date" until i was 16 either...i dont see the need to..i think your parents are just trying to set some sort of boundaries which can be a good thing it really shows they care..i was talking to my boyfriend the other day and he said his brother now had a girlfriend..they call each other on their cell phones and hang out at school..thats about it..but they're 12...seriously? 12? at 12 i was still playing with dolls...and boys still had cooties...kids are starting to date younger and youger these days and moving faster physically which I personally dont approve of...i cannot tell you a single one of my friends that dated a boy seriously at that age...and they aren't still with their boyfriend they "knew" they were going to marry in high school....i dont mean to sound so pessimistic but the truth is..at 15 you're still figuring out who you are...you may think you're in love...but horomones at these ages are raging...you are talking about your future at 15? ....oh goodness...i'm 21 and no where near ready for marriage...i cant imagine a 15 year old planning anything more than college..which still..is 4 years down the road! ....dont get too caught up in a whirlwind romance at this age is all i'm saying...if it works out...great...but i wouldn't rush things...
My parents were strict on me too. I would say that at 15 there is no need to get serious b/c statistics show that you will almost never end up with that person. Take it easy and talk and hang out - but don't think you are going to marry this person. (If you do, that could be great - but all I am saying is proceed with caution and don't count on it) Sacrifices shouldn't be an option, because at your age you really need to focus on your own future and educational/career goals. It's great to have a friend in a boy that you can talk about stuff and hang out with and kinda sorta date, but don't take it for something it's not and don't have expectations that might set your heart up to be broken. Your mom is jusy trying to protect you, and I know it's hard - believe me - but there is a lot more going on these days then even when I was in high school (not too long ago - less than 10 years ago). Maybe you can tell her that you want her to know that you are talking to this guy friend of yours and you both like each other, but you aren't really seriously dating. Try to compromise with your mom if there is a medium ground you think she will be comfortable with, then it's okay. (For instance, you can only hang out in a group with him, not just the two of you - or you can only hang out at your house where your parents can keep an eye on you here and there.) Prove to them what they need to be shown.
Don't keep it a secret. You don't want to lose the trust and respect of you parents - don't get caught in a lie for something they feel strongly about - trust me - it will take longer for them to trust you and believe anything you say!!
oops sorry i failed to re-read..didnt see the age there..
i had my first bf at 17, which is ur 'legal age'
that was when i kept it a secret..coz my parents r religious and anyway nothing serious happened..i was dumping bf's, we were both too childish anyway. i was 17 my first bf 18, then 2nd bf 19, etc.. had some 'internet' relationships n never met. finally until my 6th bf i was serious but we had some incompatibility issues..
15? im not sure if its young but girls start relationships early in my country..my niece had her first bf at 13 but she got tired of him and dumped him coz he was always at tuition and spared no time finding her..her friends were worse coz they started at 11 and 12 and one (who is probably 14 now) was cutting herself coz her bf ignored her..and that girl, her brother is the bf who got me preggers when i was 18.. and who i painfully dumped.. its a surprise the sister is my niece's friend
well my parents never actually accepted *ANY* of my bf's..im 22 now and keeping secrets..have no choice here