Honestly, I think I'm crazy/worrying to much/paranoid... etc.

but my girlfriend has this best friend who she is really close with. We'll call him Earl (not real name) She knew him for about 10 years. According to her he is the 2nd closest guy in her life, which i thought was strange because I'm 3rd. (Her first is dad) Anyway, Earl likes to hold hands with her, lay down besides her with her, come to her house randomly late at night (usually 2 AM-ish), and basically be as close to her as possible. She allws this because she thinks it's ok for close friends to do this.

Now he is 19 and my gf is 17 (like me), and also he has a gf himself. Earl's relationship with his gf isn't going so well.

He lives in San Diego, CA and we (my gf and I) are in Orange County, CA so why would he drive for a hours just to see her?

Anyway, here's the question: Is there a possibility...

... she might be abused or sexually harassed by him?

...that I might actually lose her to him?
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Earl is quick to anger and he did hit his gf couple times. Also he is about to break up with her.

My girlfriend and I have been together for 11 months, but she still has trouble trusting me when it comes down to it.

My girl friend, from my observation, has been hurt before. She is very emotional, possessive, unsure, fakes confidence, and fakes high self esteem.

She is slowly healing and she fears she will lose me.

Also I'm her first for everything including kiss, hand holding (Earl started to hold hands with her after She and I got together), etc...

So knowing this can you answer my questions?

Also why can't she trust me as she does with Earl?

and

Why does she think she's going to lose me, no matter how much she knows I won't?


Thanks so much for the help!!

Cheers,

Peter