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Recently I have begun experiencing pain during intercourse so much so that my boyfriend and I have to stop, which is obviously quite upsetting. I am also becoming very worried and frustrated.

I am being treated (with birth control pills) for what is suspected to be endometriosis. I am supposed to be trying that for 6 months before I decide if I want to try a different approach.

Do you have any suggestions for what could be done to improve this problem and allow for a worry free sex life for my boyfriend and I?
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replied June 12th, 2008
I have this same problem
the bad part is, is we are trying to have kids. I went to my gyno on the 28th only to find out in a couple of weeks I will need a pelvic scan. Sex, is soooo painful that, I like you, have to stop. My suggestion would be to go and talk to your doctor again, if he/she cannot help, go to someone else. Thats all I can offer, considering I am in the same boat and about to seek treatment.
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replied June 15th, 2008
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I was the same way. Sad No sex at all for me because I was in so much pain. If you drink caffeine, you need to stop, because it only makes things worse. Chocolate is really bad as well as red meat also. Cut down on your carb intake. believe it or not, making changes to your diet can help a lot!!
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replied June 15th, 2008
for me
it feels like while we are having sex, like he's hitting something on my right side, I usually shift or scoot back while we are, so that its less painful. But its less enjoyable for him. One day after sex, I felt a sharp pain, like a menstrual cramp, but worse on my right side too. And now the pain is still there, but not as bad. I am getting so tired of this. Confused
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replied June 17th, 2008
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Yeah. Sad It's possible that you could have a cyst on that side, or maybe some scar tissue there.
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replied April 22nd, 2009
PLEASE INFORM ME
I have a female friend i fell in love with and she has a sever case of endo. I confessed my love for her and she told me that her illness would cause us to not be together do to the pain and frustration of not being able to satisfy my sexual appetite. How do you keep a positive sexual relationship with some one with this illness....i luv her but she might be right. I may not want a relationship with some one how cant enjoy sex....
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replied May 4th, 2009
I have also have a painful sex, 7 years..the main reason was an cronical inflammation of the ovary..and I have read that cronical inflammination can't be resolved..I'm very sorry, because my english is very bad...
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replied June 2nd, 2009
Relationships and Endometriosis
I've been suffering with pain from endometriosis even after my laparoscopy that was supposed to diagnose and treat the disease. Surgery is not always a cure, it is finding the lifestyle that works with your particular case both with eating and exercise as well as your sexual habits. We were together only 2 months when my symptoms began. He is the only partner I've had so my self consciousness has been frustrating, but what has kept my boyfriend and I together after 2 1/2 years of these issues is our bond of friendship as well as our physical attraction. Our relationship is not just based on sexual satisfaction, which is obviously still very important, but we communicate. We have both taken an active role in learning what my problems are then learning what we can and cannot do in our sex life. Learning how to still satisfy each other despite my problems and pain. We are young and wish we could enjoy sex as often and as carefree as many of our peers do, but I physically cannot without pain and consequences. The reason for survival is that he truly wants to be with me and has always been willing to do the work to help me. I am very lucky in that respect and it has taught me that the relationship either works or it doesn't and it is never easy. Both parties must be willing to do the work, but still know that the benefits outweigh the trouble. When you really love somebody, the "troubles" you go through are always worth it.
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replied June 24th, 2009
I have been suffering from painful intercourse ever since I started having sex. For many years I was told that it was in my head by doctors, specialist, husband and friends. I even went to a sex therapist that suggested it was only psychological. Finally I was diagnosed with endometriosis which is a common cause of painful sex. I had 2 laparoscopy surgeries to remove the disease and improve fertility, they were only partly successful but it no way did it make it easier to have sex or help me get pregnant.. Don't believe everything your surgeons will promise.
My husband who has been the only sexual partner I've had is very supportive. We are trying very hard to get pregnant, we tried clomid for a few months with no success and have now decided to try IVF.
If you have painful sex with endo and are trying to get pregnant, chances are that you are not having intercourse effectively enough for conception, IVF is one the best options.

good luck to you all!
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replied July 6th, 2009
I was told I had endo and 5yrs ago I had full hysterocomy(sos spelt wrong) but it is still very painful during intercourse and also after, my doctors dont seem to know what to say i feel but i do find it depressing my other half is really very good about everything, i also have alot of issues with bowel, a little disappointed as going for the op wasn't succesful!!!!!!
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replied July 6th, 2009
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Is the pain from the friction of sex or pain at the top of your newly formed cervix if they did this?

Caroline
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replied June 2nd, 2010
i have endo and had 2 cysts and i never had sex and i was wondering what i should look out for?
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replied June 16th, 2010
i think it's not the effect of the BC pills, i guess that there is something more behind it.consult an expert but make sure to consult more than one and compare all their findings.
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replied June 22nd, 2010
The docs thought the same for me and i was on the same treatment route as you. Next up was the laproscopy.I switched gynos, did an ultrasound and she said she strongly believed that the pain was the position of my utereus being tipped so my cervix is different spot.
Sometimes the pain was so bad when my husband hit it I threw up from the shock of pain.

The pain had stopped because now im more careful of the positions we use.
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replied July 9th, 2010
I sometimes get pain during intercourse. I have an ovarian cyst so i guess that is the reason behind all the pain. Being on top during intercourse is the easiest position for me.
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replied July 14th, 2010
Sadly, I've always had pain with intercourse. I was diagnosed with endometriosis this past March during a laproscopy. My husband has been very supportive and understanding through all of this even though I know it is very frustrating for both of us. We've tried different positions, lubricant, toys, nothing helps. Still have the pain, but I'm holding out hope things will be better someday. My doctor seems to think things will improve once I go through childbirth. I still have to get my husband on board for a baby though...it might be a while.
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replied July 15th, 2010
I have also been diagnosed with endometriosis and my gyn/ob told me that I wouldn't be able to get pregnant, ever. I was totally devastated. But I have faith...so my husband and i haven't given up. We have been tryin for the past 8 months. Nothing has happened yet, though.
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replied July 28th, 2010
Re: PLEASE INFORM ME
endoboyfriend wrote:
I have a female friend i fell in love with and she has a sever case of endo. I confessed my love for her and she told me that her illness would cause us to not be together do to the pain and frustration of not being able to satisfy my sexual appetite. How do you keep a positive sexual relationship with some one with this illness....i luv her but she might be right. I may not want a relationship with some one baffle how cant enjoy sex....


dude if you confessed your love to her then , no matter what you be with her
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replied July 30th, 2010
Try changing your diet. Certain foods help. Also try different sexual positions that don't place so much pressure on the womb.
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replied August 23rd, 2011
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Mmm. I was about fourteen going on fifteen when after about two years since my first period I still hadn't had it more than two or three times. I was over six months late every time.... I lost a lot of blood and had quite a lot of pain... I was sent to the doctor and a medical centre, where they realized that there were a lot of cysts causing the issues - endometriosis. I was told to take birth control, but my mother thought I was too young and feared I would go and shag about, I guess. I have been taking it for about two years now, though (I'm 20), and whereas the pain is not constant anymore, when at times it still flares, it is so bad I burst into tears because I can find no way to turn in which it hurts less.

The pain during intercourse is always there, though. I have never shared the bed with a man, but have been in a loving relationship with a woman for about 2,5 years, of which 2 sexually active. We have tried lubricant and toys and I distinctly remember the first time the toy slid into me (I was on top). There was such intense pain radiating through whole of my pelvis and shooting up my back. Ever since I have been reluctant to use it and only when I'm very very relaxed and aroused do I dare use it now. One finger is enough to hurt me, though. It is frustrating and more often than not have I kicked my girl off me and have I crawled away crying because I was so sick of the pain and felt guilty that I could not enjoy it.

All I ever really wanted to achieve in life is become a mom. I'll never have a child - even if I could conceive, my bad back would be unable to carry a child.

Endometriosis has so much more impact than people who have no clue expect. It causes so much despair and guilt and pain and most people don't even understand.
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replied September 20th, 2013
after reading your post, I immediately got extremely emotional because it sounded so familiar. I'm 21 now, and the only serious relationship I've had was with my high school boyfriend (we were together 3 years, from when I was 16-19). Naturally, I lost my virginity to him, and assumed that the immense pain I experience was natural for my first time, but that pain never went away.

I've been single for two years now, and I would love to find someone else, but I'm at an age where sex is practically implied when you're dating (everything was so much easier in high school). If I can't have sex, which is an extremely important part of every relationship, then how am I supposed to find the right person for me? And even if I decided to grin and bare it for the right guy, I'm a 21 year old in NYC with little to no experience with intercourse (trust me, we're uncommon.), not to mention the appalling thought of having to make him stop in the middle of it because it's too painful (happened to me on more than one occasion).

It's a vicious cycle, really, I can't get serious with someone until we've had sex, but I'd feel uneasy having sex with a guy if we weren't serious (only because I don't want to have to put myself through the humiliation of having awful painful sex with someone who doesn't know me well enough to really care)
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replied September 20th, 2013
after reading your post, I immediately got extremely emotional because it sounded so familiar. I'm 21 now, and the only serious relationship I've had was with my high school boyfriend (we were together 3 years, from when I was 16-19). Naturally, I lost my virginity to him, and assumed that the immense pain I experience was natural for my first time, but that pain never went away.

I've been single for two years now, and I would love to find someone else, but I'm at an age where sex is practically implied when you're dating (everything was so much easier in high school). If I can't have sex, which is an extremely important part of every relationship, then how am I supposed to find the right person for me? And even if I decided to grin and bare it for the right guy, I'm a 21 year old in NYC with little to no experience with intercourse (trust me, we're uncommon.), not to mention the appalling thought of having to make him stop in the middle of it because it's too painful (happened to me on more than one occasion).

It's a vicious cycle, really, I can't get serious with someone until we've had sex, but I'd feel uneasy having sex with a guy if we weren't serious (only because I don't want to have to put myself through the humiliation of having awful painful sex with someone who doesn't know me well enough to really care)
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replied September 20th, 2013
after reading your post, I immediately got extremely emotional because it sounded so familiar. I'm 21 now, and the only serious relationship I've had was with my high school boyfriend (we were together 3 years, from when I was 16-19). Naturally, I lost my virginity to him, and assumed that the immense pain I experience was natural for my first time, but that pain never went away.

I've been single for two years now, and I would love to find someone else, but I'm at an age where sex is practically implied when you're dating (everything was so much easier in high school). If I can't have sex, which is an extremely important part of every relationship, then how am I supposed to find the right person for me? And even if I decided to grin and bare it for the right guy, I'm a 21 year old in NYC with little to no experience with intercourse (trust me, we're uncommon.), not to mention the appalling thought of having to make him stop in the middle of it because it's too painful (happened to me on more than one occasion).

It's a vicious cycle, really, I can't get serious with someone until we've had sex, but I'd feel uneasy having sex with a guy if we weren't serious (only because I don't want to have to put myself through the humiliation of having awful painful sex with someone who doesn't know me well enough to really care)
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